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I read this book this weekend and it was excellent. It was written by a widow and a friends of hers whose specialty is psychology. They pull from many different resources (science, religion, philosophy) and share information about building resiliency. The idea for the book came after the woman lost her husband unexpectedly, and how she learned how to cope with the grief. The way she describes her grief paralleled how I felt after d-day. I hope I don't sound callous comparing an affair to becoming a widow, but it is a huge loss in its own way.

One part that especially hit for me was where the authors shared a concept from a psychologist called the 3 P's. Avoiding personalization (making it all about you), permanence (it will always be like this), and pervasiveness (that is affects everything) can help you overcome adversity. I have done all three of these over and over when it comes to sorting my BS emotions. I am going to make an effort to identify these feelings when I have them and try to redirect my thinking and recognize what is true and what is not.

I checked this book out from the library, but am going to buy a copy so I can reread and highlight all the good stuff. I definitely recommend this book! If anyone else has read it, I would love to hear what you think of it.

I read this book after hearing her speak last year. I really enjoyed it, and found it eye opening in a few ways.