Topic is Sleeping.
kiwilee (original poster member #10426) posted at 5:20 AM on Sunday, November 12th, 2023
Holy crap we are almost to finish line. Just has to be signed off from judge (about a week).
We did 4 months of mediation and it was way better than I could have ever hoped for! He has been out of the house about a month and I am starting to feel so much peace. Overall, it’s amicable. It was a 27 year marriage so there is just too much history to hold bitterness. Yes, I have plenty to be angry about, but why? I choose peace. And this means I have truly let go of the marriage. It’s so freeing to reach indifference.
I don’t hold feelings of revenge or bitterness. I want him to be okay in the world. I don’t like the person he became over the last few years but I loved the man within his new self for so long that I know his soul is good, his choices and character are bad. So I focus on the parts of him that are redeemable and appreciate the things he did well. And I know without a doubt that this is what is best for me. He has a drinking problem and made terrible choices and lied extensively. I’m grateful I’m out of the marriage and we can remain amicable.
I’m freeeeeee and it is amazing.
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 5:28 AM on Sunday, November 12th, 2023
FREEDOM!! Congratulations!
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
Fold123 ( member #83366) posted at 2:32 PM on Sunday, November 12th, 2023
What an inspiring post, kiwi. I can feel the joy in your words. Congratulations.
Helena67 ( member #80506) posted at 9:47 PM on Thursday, November 16th, 2023
wow, i'm impressed with what you wrote. congratulations on the upcoming divorce. you're almost free! enjoy your new life.
BS (me) 56 years. Divorced!!!
ANewPerson ( member #83728) posted at 1:52 PM on Friday, November 17th, 2023
Yes, I have plenty to be angry about, but why? I choose peace. And this means I have truly let go of the marriage. It’s so freeing to reach indifference.
Yes, this is my goal upon divorce. Congratulations, on being out of infidelity feeling peace and excitement for the future.
PinkJeepLady ( member #37575) posted at 4:45 PM on Sunday, November 19th, 2023
That’s awesome that you are feeling so much peace and moving on.
It’s heartbreaking to end a long term marriage for sure.
I completely understand wishing him well as he moves forward too.
Thanks for sharing your inspiring insights!
Me: BW Him: FWH
DDay June 1st 2012
cheated with prostitutes overseas
Reconciled - thought so, but now divorcing
Topic is Sleeping.
