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My kids are getting older and are in and out of the house with friends. I'm here most of the time they are, but when I'm not, I wanted them to be able to come and go without having to worry about keys and remembering to lock the front door if they left. I installed a Lockly combination/fingerprint lock. We love it! It automatically locks when we leave, it beeps (alarm) if someone doesn't shut the door all the way, and we can use a combination or our fingerprint to open the door. Maybe something like that would help?

Yes, Thank you!!! I will look into that. It would at least help with the front door. Does it work on a battery?

It does. The batteries last about 9 months and the lock gives you plenty of warning before they need to be changed. It takes about 2 minutes to unscrew and switch out. Very easy.

Also, when I’m going to be out of town, I set up a code for my neighbors in case I get a package (my post office doesn’t follow hold instructions well). I can deactivate it whenever.

Thank you so much!! Sounds like it would work well for setting up for contractors to let themselves in too.

My reply is a little different. I believe you need to call child services. They will come out talk to them about the issues and have them set up safe guards for there child.

My daughter is chronically ill when she was about 15 my neighbor called cops and said I was keeping her prisoner or making her sick. The lady came. Asked for proof of life of my daughter She was behind me and said I am right here. We invited her in and she explained the issues. She was free to speak to her, I would go make a list of her doctors in another room. She talked to my daughter, I had a binder with reports from each doctor, including a report that said that 2 of the issues were genetic and the other symptoms were as a result. She basically said we needed to clean her room. I said fine. But the neighbors had all seen my daughter within days.

It is to protect the child. What if he wanders onto the road? If they are not willing to put up a fence or have no money that can be figured out.

Is it possible he knows sign language? My bestie has a developmentally disabled now adult. I have helped her out when she needed me, taken him to movies etc. I use an app called Mimix3D. I type my question in and it has a animated cartoon type person sign it. He is very non communicative but we understand. Also put a keep out sign and beware of dogs to decrease liability.

My door was locked and he kept trying to get it open until his parent walked him home. He is very determined to get in here. I'm not sure why. We are older, boring empty nesters. Nothing exciting happening here.

My brother (he's 56 now) is autistic and was nonverbal during much of his childhood. He had a penchant for wanting to go into other people's houses. To this day, when he goes to anyone's house (invited), he wants to check out all the rooms in the home. It's just a thing. He also wandered away from home a few times when he was about 4-5 years old; he actually walked in nothing but his undies 1 mile away to my grandmother's house. Imagine her surprise when he walked in her front door! Anyway, mom and dad had to resort to using an inside lock with a key so he could not get out of the house and they had to be super vigilant about not letting him wander off and go where he should not. No it's not easy because many autistic people have zero sense of danger and boundaries.

When he was 11, he went on a class field trip to the zoo and he wandered off - the police found him wandering down a busy highway. He could not communicate so it took awhile to find my parents to come get him. From that point forward, he carried a wallet that contained an ID and explained his disability and how to communicate with him.

My point is, his parents should know by now that they need to watch him more carefully - he could end up being seriously hurt or worse. I know that approaching his parents isn't something you want to do, but if something happens to him on your property/in your home, you will be liable.

Thanks for your input.

I'm pretty sure he has only come to my house and I think it happens when they are outside with him.

I don't think he is autistic. He has some medical and developmental/low IQ issues.

It has only happened a few times. The problem for me is I have to worry about it and do door locking all day every day because I have no idea if and when it might happen.

They really need to put up a fence like they said they were going to. I don't think money is an issue. They have nice new cars, take expensive vacations and buy lots of stuff.

I will talk to them at some point.