Topic is Sleeping.
HellFire ( member #59305) posted at 11:44 PM on Wednesday, February 1st, 2023
You're upset because he is keeping secrets with other women. Yes, because he is ethically bound by his job. But..still..for a triggered BS..things like that don't typically matter much..it still hurts. And it's understandable.
But you are what you did
And I'll forget you, but I'll never forgive
The smallest man who ever lived..
sewardak (original poster member #50617) posted at 11:21 AM on Thursday, February 2nd, 2023
Stevesn ( member #58312) posted at 11:56 AM on Thursday, February 2nd, 2023
Is it actually unethical or illegal for him to let you know he is working w one of your friends but not tell you what it’s about?
If not that could be a boundary you set.
The other option is that the boundary be he doesn’t take the work but refers them to someone else. There are ramifications for cheating, this just might be one of them for you both, lost business.
fBBF. Just before proposing, broke it off after her 2nd confirmed PA in 2 yrs. 9 mo later I met the wonderful woman I have spent the next 30 years with.
secondtime ( member #58162) posted at 11:36 PM on Friday, February 3rd, 2023
It's not just the secret, it's the ambush that you don't know is coming.
If your husband knows that the Susie just helped launch a business is the same Susie in your book club...
I would think your husband could say "Oh, hon, BTW, you might run into one of my clients tonight.
The other option, which I would go so far to do, is to ask to see a BLANK NDA form that he signs for part of his work. I would want to be able to verify that saying "a client" breaks confidentiality rules.
And, then if it does, in your situation, I would ask that my spouse find a job where he can be slightly transparent.
My husband ambushed me enough. He knows I don't do surprises anymore.
Topic is Sleeping.
