Topic is Sleeping.
Mag24 (original poster new member #84651) posted at 4:51 AM on Saturday, March 30th, 2024
Thanks everyone, I appreciate your words. It’s definitely not an easy road to travel down. I have no idea what will end up transpiring. But I do know that it will make me stronger and has certainly given me a good kick up the ass to get my shit together 🤣
I do love him so that makes it really hard. And I also don’t want to forgive him for what he’s done but I feel that if I choose not to forgive him, the first person I’m really hurting is myself because then I’m going to be carrying around the weight of hate and resentment.
Every time I look at him I see him connected to her somehow. Whether it’s him having sex with some else or holding her or god knows what else. It took me years to get these images out of my mind the first time he had an affair. Any advice on how to cope / deal with those visuals that pop in to say an unwelcome hello?
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 1:47 AM on Sunday, March 31st, 2024
There's an article in the Healing Library that talks about mind movies that might help you. I
One member would mentally go through the steps to chop and make a salad.
For me, mindfulness and meditation helped but not until I was over a year out.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
Topic is Sleeping.
