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The kids other than dd are all using one of wh old phones. His galaxy A20 is used by ds. His old work phone, little M has.

She was crying one day and I asked what was wrong. Turns out she was looking in the gallery for photos she had taken and scrolled down and found photos wh had saved from online of woman without much on and photos of me he'd taken while I was sleeping.

None of those pictures he took of me had my consent and it really bugs me. Who did he show those to? And they are 100% intimate photos. I feel so violated and humiliated.

I'm sorry he did that.

Get that phone and turn it over to the police. It is a criminal offense.

There's no proof he sent them to anyone or posted them online so I'm not sure they can charge him with anything. I will show them and see what they say.

It's more the feeling of being violated that's so hard.

It doesn't matter if they were sent or shown to anyone.

It is a criminal offense, he did not have consent.

I'm so sorry Dragn. That is really creepy. I'm sure you do feel violated.

It's humiliating for me but it was horrible for little M to see. She kept asking why dad had pictures of other woman on his phone and why he took pictures of me.

I disnt know what to say. There's just no explanation that makes sense.

That's a tough one. In my head only I would be saying because daddy is a creep. Would it be wrong to say I don't know you need to ask him? It's truthful and they are his pictures to explain.

I apologized for not checking the phone and didn't day anything else. Asking him woukd just make him upset and that's not what I want the kids to deal with.

Sending ((virtual hugs))
So sorry this happened

Thank you

This whole thing is horrible. His cheating was horrible, his abuse was horrible and he's still managing to hurt the kids and I even while he's not here.

It's sad and depressing.

Give it to your attorney. The kids will get past this. Keep moving forward.

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Police seized the phone. Becauze it's wh phone they needed to get a warrant to actually view the photos. I was told I'd eventually get it back.

Little M was not happy about that but I gave her my old phone which is a newer old phone lol so she's been ok with losing the one she had.

The whole thing is so embarrassing and I apologized to the officer because no one needs to see me in that state lol.

I'm sorry you and the kids are having to deal with this.

I'm glad the police are investigating.

You need to protect your children

I'm doing the best I can to protect them.

Dd gave her statement to police yesterday for what wh did to her. I dont know when I'll find out of it will mean more charges for him. If it does the no contact conditions will also be for her.

I really want to know if/how criminal charges will affect family court and the divorce.

Could a family court judge allow visitation while a criminal investigation is underway? That possibility scares the crap out of me.

Dd has said that she's worried her dad is going to be angry with her for what she told the police.

OOOH that makes me so mad on her behalf! That she's worried what your WH thinks of her testimony! Yeah, he'll be mad. Let him fume- he's the one to blame, not her!

Is she afraid for her safety too?

Sorry Dragn, I'm so mad on your behalf right now that this is even something your girl has to have in her life.

You all deserve so much better.

Is she afraid for her safety too?

Yes. She said she's worried he will beat her up if he gets to see her.

It's awful that she worries and has gone through so much at 15.

Sigh. In that case, I will pray that the family court sees sense in the criminal case here and forbids WH visitation. This is going to take YEARS for her to recover from. Hugs to you guys.

"Yes. She said she's worried he will beat her up if he gets to see her."

I'm at a loss for words. Sending you and the kids hugs and strength.

This is going to take YEARS for her to recover from.

The weird thing is that she appears to be handling it all just fine. No crying. She's eating finally. First officer she spoke with told her she needs to take care of herself and eat when I told him she's lost 3 pounds.

She said she had to tell the truth.

Geez I get teary eyed just typing this out.

But she hasn't cried since the last time all the kids did a video call with wh and they all saw his shaved head.

I kinda wish she would be more emotional. I don't know if she's just holding it all in so she doesn't upset anyone else or if she's really just ok.

Now she has an IC and that IC and I have talked. Ic knows dd doesn't open up so she's working with her to gain her trust. It may take time. Victim services wants dd to see a trauma psychologist but dd doesn't want to because she has an IC already. I don't want to overload her.

I just finished my Mandatory court information session.

Anyone else have to do that?

I guess it's good information however a little late. I got most if not all of that while getting my paperwork for court ready and speaking to my lawyer.

There was alot of information about mediation and a huge focus on the impact on children.

So that's done.