annb ( member #22386) posted at 8:13 PM on Monday, April 30th, 2012
bump. 
Magda08 ( new member #35211) posted at 2:51 AM on Tuesday, May 1st, 2012
bump for the newbies
Fighting2Survive ( member #28410) posted at 9:02 PM on Thursday, May 10th, 2012
Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well
"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces
annb ( member #22386) posted at 9:34 PM on Friday, May 11th, 2012
annb ( member #22386) posted at 3:02 AM on Sunday, May 20th, 2012
bump
lordhasaplan? ( member #30079) posted at 2:39 PM on Thursday, May 24th, 2012
Bump! 
BS- Me (45)
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
Currently in R.
Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
Jpapageorge ( member #31800) posted at 5:25 AM on Sunday, May 27th, 2012
"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF
Edie ( member #26133) posted at 6:24 AM on Sunday, June 3rd, 2012
Fighting2Survive ( member #28410) posted at 9:25 PM on Friday, June 8th, 2012
Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well
"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces
woundedby2 ( member #18522) posted at 2:26 AM on Thursday, June 14th, 2012
Bumping
In 2010 I divorced the NPD assclown who cheated on me with my best friend.
Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson
lordhasaplan? ( member #30079) posted at 4:05 PM on Tuesday, June 19th, 2012
BS- Me (45)
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
Currently in R.
Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
Fighting2Survive ( member #28410) posted at 8:34 PM on Monday, July 2nd, 2012
Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well
"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces
lordhasaplan? ( member #30079) posted at 1:44 PM on Wednesday, July 4th, 2012
BS- Me (45)
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
Currently in R.
Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
homewrecked2011 ( member #34678) posted at 6:02 PM on Friday, July 6th, 2012
Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55
SuspiciousWife ( member #18108) posted at 5:53 PM on Tuesday, July 10th, 2012
Me - BW, 44
Him - FWH, 44
OW - former co-worker
3 great kids
DDay - April 25, 2008 - mostly EA with one make-out session
lordhasaplan? ( member #30079) posted at 4:32 PM on Monday, July 30th, 2012
BS- Me (45)
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
Currently in R.
Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
Fighting2Survive ( member #28410) posted at 9:19 PM on Tuesday, July 31st, 2012
Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well
"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces
charbonnel ( member #36324) posted at 9:38 AM on Wednesday, August 1st, 2012
Great advice. But what if the marriage was troubled. WS says she wouldn't have had the affair had she not been miserable (I know no excuse) but I take ownership of my own behaviour and have committed to improving it. She says that the OM isn't the issue but it is our marriage, that being in the A allowed her to stay in the marriage! She now says that even if the A ends (she seems to be finding out that the OM isn't as honest as she thought as she's found he's been staying in local hotels when she isn't involved and isn't being forthcoming with answers) she doesn't make reconciling with me a priority, that she likes being her own woman and is encouraging me to find another (better) partner. But I don't want to. I want my marriage to be improved and renewed, I want my family back. I am 51 (BS) and she is 33 (WS) we have a 7 yr old son.
I can't seem to do the 180. Even tonight she invited me for dinner with them...as I have no life it is hard to resist not seeing them but it is painful as I always think about what might be if only she would recommit...
justjul ( member #36383) posted at 8:41 AM on Wednesday, August 8th, 2012
Oh, THIS. This needs to stay on the front page. BUMP.
charbonnel, have you read the topic on understanding 180 ? http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=232785
DDay: 6 August 2012
Me: BS (30s)
Him: WH (30s)
Together 2001; Married 2009
No children
lordhasaplan? ( member #30079) posted at 4:27 PM on Saturday, August 11th, 2012
BS- Me (45)
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
Currently in R.
Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
