Real love is a CHOICE, NOT a feeling...

Feeling conflicted... gah!

Background: As part of my IC post Dday, my therapist recommended me to join IRL young adult groups on my areas of pre-marriage personal interest. One of those was a monthly book club. Lots of members have come and gone; the location has changed multiple times, the book selection has evolved as our lives have changed; yet, almost 15 years later, it’s part of my safe and happy routine until this past Thursday morning I got an odd text message from one of the members. It only said “can we talk?”

We mostly group text because I am the only single one left and it makes easier to plan gatherings. Also, I must add that I tried extra hard to always be Switzerland I have already lost too many good guy friends in my life and my therapist agreed it was a healthy boundary.

Anyhow, finally by Friday morning, I talked myself into texting back “Yes”. The call came in 45 minutes later and it only lasted 27 minutes and 45 seconds but I am still spinning. They are getting divorce and there are allegations of abuse I listened. I offered moral support and prayers but now I am extremely conflicted Do I owe the other party an opportunity to share their side of the story? Do I pretend like I don’t know what is going on? Is this just my atypical brain overthinking and getting overwhelmed?

3 comments posted: Sunday, July 4th, 2021

Hillbilly Elegy

As an outsider, Hillbilly Elegy is an insightful book. I studied the “Writing to Heal” technique in undergraduate school but I had to see for myself while training at the county hospital what incredible courage it takes to handle the baggage of a tumultuous upbringing. For trauma informed care providers, JD is living proof that when children find people who support them, when they feel cared for and befriended, their bodies and brains have a better shot at healing. For some readers, he is just oversimplifying an extremely complex social issue and in the process placing too much emphasis on learned helplessness. I would love to hear feedback from insiders

5 comments posted: Friday, July 31st, 2020

Armada

It's official, I love Ernest Cline's writing style and every reference he makes to nerdy books, TV shows, movies, video games, etc.

4 comments posted: Friday, September 11th, 2015

Gone Girl

I just finished reading and I can help to feel super disappointmented Most of the characters were plain broken people so I'm inclined to think I never connected with any of them.

36 comments posted: Monday, May 13th, 2013