Me:50/55. BS Him:48 XWH/55 xwbfMarried almost 10 years/ 3 yr rel3 adult kids/ 2 adult kids1st DDay 2 wks after marriage/ Mar 105 OW's and false R's/ 1+ OW’s? April 2017 Divorced/ ended rel Mar 16No second chances ever again!
I should have listened to this groups advice..
So after 2 years from divorce, I decided to date. Was someone I knew in high school. I came to this group with a couple yellow flags. Folks told me to walk away. I stayed. Three years in next week. Found out he did crack, got drunk and had sex with someone while I was out of country with my dying dad. I don’t drink, only use what is prescribed to me and no opiates as they make me sick. How did I allow myself to get in this situation. Now I get to extricate myself from this relationship. I am numb, not angry, not sad just numb. I found out on March 10th. We went out to listen to some music. Started off great then he had a few too many. Went to his house, in his drunken state he said " You’re stupid, why are you with me anyway? I’m not a good person. You don’t know what I did". He then went to the bathroom where I heard a big crash. Opened the door and there he was on the floor with pants down. Nice. He made it to the couch, i searched his phone - which he had given me the password to help me feel safer in relationship and said he had nothing to hide. Phone showed he had semi blacked out on drugs and booze and had sex with an unknown female that his friend said was like a zombie when he…I haven’t seen him since.
I am stupid to have stayed. The weekend my dad died he was doing this, now I know why he didn’t answer when I called. Next time, if there is a next time…I will follow the wisdom of this group. On a positive note, I have not been intimate with him. Now I know why on that end too, still going for testing. Blah. I’ll be 56 next week. Thanks for listening! 
10 comments posted: Sunday, March 13th, 2022
keylogger and Dr fone
Ok I bought and downloaded a keylogger. I put it on his computer. I hope the damn thing works! I also downloaded dr fone free version. I attempted to scan the phone and found out I need the damn password, which he has changed several times and I can't get into the stupid thing. Maybe the keylogger will give me enough info.
Although I have enough through the var to hurt my heart. Of course I cant say anything about what I heard....
Anyone use a keylogger? Does it really work...
1 comment posted: Wednesday, March 2nd, 2016
Don't try to unlock iphone with emergency number!
I thought I would use a YouTube video to unlock a phone. Don't do it, I accidentally called the police! And I hung up and they called back! Yikes. Won't be doing that again. Good thing I practiced on my own phone.
Any suggestions?
1 comment posted: Friday, February 12th, 2016
