But that's just a lot of water Underneath a bridge I burned And there's no use in backtracking Around corners I have turned “Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler

Wow - when actions match words...

Hi to all my looooooong ago class of 2008 of the club we never wanted join!

What a weird yet wonderful moment in time I'm having. The end of February used to be trigger city for me as it relates to my XH. My current H and I have been marriend 5yrs but together 11.5 years... the same amount of time my XH and I were together. I realized this because I have had too much time to think lately.

I was involved in an accident with a horse that landed me in the hospital. H has been amazing. I mean AMAZING. What has become apparent during this time is that he needs more awareness of the details of some of the practical household administrative things. I am the CFO of our lives. We have never share bank accounts and I handle the bills. Coming out of my awful relationship with my XH, the thought of sharing that type of thing made me feel vulnerable. What I realize right now, is it is a relief. I am more than happy to share and bring my H into the loop. 10+ years of healthy relationship has somehow built a level of trust and comfort I never had in my previous M. Somehow, consistent actions on his part have made me so comfortable, I didn't even realize how much I have grown to trust again.

All I'm really saying is that you can trust someone again after infidelity. A near miracle for me, but when the actions matched the words, it's not even been that hard. It just happened.

3 comments posted: Monday, February 21st, 2022

PnW G2G???

I know there are some other PNWers here. Anyone want to host one? (pretty please). I'm lousy for hosting b/c I travel 5days/week most of the time and live in the boonies when I'm not on the road but I'll travel. Anyone???

Hmmm... I think I'm just looking for something to do on a Friday night.

2 comments posted: Monday, January 16th, 2017