DDay Feb 26 2011
27 yrs M
11+ yrs of cheating (in love with two women!) Proclaiming he wanted a poly lifestyle.
in the end... My world is bigger than his shit.
Divorced Oct 2012
"Nothing is going to work out and it will all be

10 years divorced-today. Niece called w same old s#@$

Oh my, I blew the dust off my profile and added the 10 years divorced today. Yeah, it does get better. Wish there was a happily ever after thing but I haven’t experienced that though I have a pretty amazing life in every other way but a solid, present partner in this crazy, awful, and beautiful world.

The best sort of revenge, if you must, is to live an authentic, open hearted life. I have had love for two or three men since divorce. I could picture a life w them. The love was not reciprocated. Have love for a man on the cusp of retirement and has been in another city from the one we met. Says he wants to be together. We shall see.

In the mean time I am living my life. Travel. Bought a vintage two flat with rental income, and sold the house I shared in our marriage, just before the pandemic. Couldn’t be happier in my new neighborhood, the house itself, and an amazing and huge new studio space for art making. A beautiful park across the street and is along the banks of an urban river. I paddle in my canoe I bought when I got divorced, named "Chapter Three," and try to get out on the water as often as I can.

Him: married one of the women he was so in love with. Living in northern CA among the poly community. Wanted to check in during the worst of the pandemic to ask how all that blissful multi partner shit was going but I didn’t! 😏

Then, my niece called yesterday. Married quite young, (19) to a Navy dude. Two years later pregnant w second. Found traces and clues of porn, sexting, and blah blah blah. I sent her the link to this amazing support system that I used for commiserating, support, enlightenment, and understanding. I know it will be helpful to her if she clicks. She also has a therapist but is isolated in every other way. Hopefully moving closer soon.

I maintain my world was and still is bigger than his shit. I wish the same for my niece and of us who have loved someone with poor decision making skills regarding their partnership and really, regarding their own integrity on this earth.

Tonight I am going out to fancy restaurant w a friend and celebrating having lost a burden of 200 lbs, aka the ex hub.

Peace to all.

4 comments posted: Tuesday, October 25th, 2022