Married 32 years, together for 40 DDay Dec. 17, 2011 No R, D June 21, 2012 Me BS 58 Him WH 59 Now with WBF 3 yrs. DD#2 June 5, 2018 Truth is like surgery, it hurts but heals. A Lie is like a painkiller. It gives instant relief but has si

Here we go again

Hi Everyone, it has been a really long time since I have been on SI and posted. I’m not sure if this is the right forum for my post and please forgive me if this turns out to be a long one. Quick recap: I joined SI back in 2012, I was married 32 years and my WH left me for his narcissistic OW. They are no longer together and he has since apologized to me and explained to me that he ended up in therapy (though he wouldn’t go to marriage counseling with me). Anyway, I feel blessed to have gotten an apology which is more than most get.

After 2012 fast forward a couple years I met my SO. We have been together 7 years. We dated a couple of years and at that point we purchased a home. Off and on I had had problems with him having online EAs. He always had a quick temper and I never really knew what would trigger it. Then during COVID we moved to Mexico. I really enjoyed the local but, his behavior began to deteriorate. At the time I didn’t really realize that he was becoming more and more emotionally abusive. We lived with the locals but we would frequent the tourist area in town. One day we had a slight disagreement over a stupid t-shirt. He was getting loud so I asked him why he had to be like that, which obviously enraged him, he started yelling and swearing at me in front of all these poor tourists trying to sit outside and enjoy their food at the outdoor café. To avoid further conflict I tried walking away, he yelled behind me get the F"%$! back here. I was so embarrassed. One other event we were walking and came to a street where there was a stop sign and a car pulled up at the same time we got there. I waved the car on but, he got aggravated and pushed me and yelled "Just go!" I had to take a step in front of the car. There were so many more incidents. One frequent chore we had was to take our clothes to the laundry lady for laundering. I could tell she liked my SO and of course gave him her phone number. He started texting her, our situation got worse and we moved back home. He was full swing texting her but I wasn’t so concerned as she was a good distance away.

The deal breaker…his abusive behavior and extreme negative thoughts continued here. I asked if he would go to counseling with me and he laughed at me and said they don’t know what they are doing. They can’t even manage their own lives. Being really frustrated I suggested maybe we need to take some time apart. We haven’t separated yet and in comes OW. This is a woman he cheated on his BW with 20+ years ago. Now she is married and cheating on her husband. This is a full-blown physical A complete with "I miss you so my love" "my heart is with you" blah blah texts.
By her phone number I believe I have found her last name, address and husband’s name. I can’t seem to find a cell for him and neither of the have FB accounts.

My moral dilemma, do I tell her BH? My SO will not break it off so we are finished. I’m heartbroken, angry, sad in the same bundle.

2 comments posted: Wednesday, September 21st, 2022

Retrieving Deleted Texts Help

My WS has a t-mobile Zmax Pro android phone and I believe it cannot be rooted. Does anyone know any other way to retrieve deleted text messages?

2 comments posted: Monday, August 20th, 2018

mSpy Experience zte981 Phone Cannot be Rooted

My WSO has a t-Mobile ZTE981 Android phone. I purchased the mSpy app including their phone and chat support (both extra fees I might add)

Loading the app on the phone was pretty easy. I logged into the Dashboard on my laptop and I was able to see the texts with no issue. However, the FB IMs, Whatsapp were not displaying. As I expected because the phone has to be rooted. I attempted to Root it, failed.

Tried calling support I got a message saying all agents are busy try calling back later and it cuts you off. Attempted this 4 times at various intervals and same, cut off.

Tried clicking on the chat feature on the right side of the screen and kept getting the for an extra $$$ you can have support. Ummm, I already paid for support.

Mysteriously later a chat box popped up and I was provided a couple of links for additional apps . Still it didn't work.

The following day I e-mailed support and about 10 hours later I received a response that the ZTE981 cannot be rooted period. Well, since I wanted this app to check out FB Messenger IMs I was not satisfied. I checked in with chat to find out how to apply for a refund> First they suggested buying a different phone, then they told me to use the other features available and they ended the chat session. Ummm, I believe their add said satisfaction guaranteed.

To say the least, I am not thrilled with my experience with mSpy, not because of the phone (not their fault) But the support is not so good.

2 comments posted: Sunday, August 13th, 2017

Activity Tracking at Cable Modem

I have very limited access to WH phone,well next to nil. He always uses the wireless when home. Does anyone know if there is a way or app to track what websites have been visited at the cable modem level? We are using Xfinity. He is always using his phone and not a computer or I'd be looking at the history and search info. I'd love to use a key logger or app on his phone but I don't get access to it to even load an app and I don't want him to discover the app either.

Thanks.

15 comments posted: Wednesday, July 19th, 2017