The ADHD Effect on Marriage
Not specifically about affairs, but an excellent book for anyone who is ADD and married (like me) or who is married to someone who is ADD. The author's husband is ADD, but it describes both sides of the relationship accurately, fairly, and without judging but without excusing damaging behavior -- by either spouse. It helped me understand how much pain and aggravation my ADD caused my wife, and it helped her understand that I don't really intend to cause her pain and aggravation with the things I do. Anyone in a marriage with one spouse who is ADD will instantly recognize themselves in this book. Not everything applied to our marriage, but some much of it unmistakeably applies. And it does not stop with just describing the problems; it includes things for both spouses to do that will help them deal with the disease.
This observation was so accurate, it made me laugh, and when I've shared it with others with ADD, it made them laugh as well: For someone with ADD, there are only two times -- now and not now. If you understand that, then you should read the book.
(Sorry for the title. SI doesn't like titles with words in all caps.)
13 comments posted: Sunday, March 1st, 2015
