Gotta work on this bitter-thing... married 26 years, together 31,childhood sweethearts 2 kids, 18 + 20 divorce is happening - it can't not june 5th,2015...divorced. July 2018....time marches on I guess. Yes it does. Not a fan of this

son's wedding - advice please

It's been 7 years since our divorce was final. I am unapologetically ... not over it. I am not carrying a torch for this guy - but I am triggered every day by something. I'm not really moving on like I see others do. I'm not dating. Had a couple false starts and quit altogether. Sometimes I'm okay with being alone (with my pets) and sometimes so very lonely and sad for my future. I truly feel I've some sort of ptsd over the whole process.

My son is getting married this summer. Both my parents are very likely not attending due to poor health. This leaves my sister and her husband, and 3 friends of mine who are coming on "my" side. My new daughter in law's family is great. The rest of the guests are my ex-family. It's awkward and painful for me ( maybe for them too ) My ex has remarried.I've never met her. He and I do not communicate -not before, not now. He's NPD.

The stress is pretty high.

What do you all think? Would I be happier with a date? (Remember, it'd be someone new), or not? That might not be an option. But those that love me seem to think I should have a date.

I'd love to say I'm just me and going to rock it solo. But I'm not like that - self confidence is a wee bit crappy, if I'm being honest.

Sure would have been nice had I lost that post divorce weight at least haha.

And I most definitely know that this is about my son and his bride. Which is utlimately the cause of my concern.

Tell me something good

13 comments posted: Saturday, May 29th, 2021