Bought a new couch, popped the popcorn, now we wait for the fireworks, they shall be glorious!!

First date coming up

So I’m going on a first date this weekend. We’ve been texting and talking on the phone since the 10th. No red flags .,,, None! I’m on his Facebook so double checked and triple checked everything he’s said. He’s a self proclaimed “shy nerd” and a “Christian.” Again checked that. He has posts interspersed in his Facebook about church and nerdy things. We’ve talked about EVERYTHING and know each others story including “triggers.”

He’s only been with 2 women his whole life and seems very wholesome. Respects my boundaries and makes sure he’s careful with them. Worried I’m gonna blow it!

28 comments posted: Wednesday, September 23rd, 2020

Might have jumped from pan to fire

[This message edited by Hurtingnconfused at 1:41 AM, September 7th (Monday)]

0 comment posted: Monday, September 7th, 2020

Might have jumped from pan to fire

After my divorce I was upset and drank a little. I’m a lightweight so it didn’t take much!! My Exwh is with the OW so I created a Match profile, drunk and pissed so it was pretty honest. Was SHOCKED when I got hits, even more shocked when I went on a few dates with one guy and he professed that I was “perfect” for him, exactly what he wanted and kept pushing for more. I was very honest with him, that I wanted to date but NOT move in with him. He gave off “red” flags from date one, but I thought I don’t pick well, so it might be me. He did not take it well when I pushed back on the “moving in” thing.

Met up with an ex from high school that I’ve remained friends with. We hung out as he was in town. A little history: Last time I saw him, he was at the high school reunion with his wife n kids. She looks an awful lot like me! He informed me then ( oh 3years ago? ) that him and his wife were swingers and I was his “golden ticket.” I had no idea what that meant. Apparently I can “sleep” with him any time with her permission. They both howled at the look of shock on my face, and the scowl on my then husbands. Apparently it’s ok for him to step out..., Sooooo anyway.... he points out to me that I’m no longer married and I should “Play”. He pointed out that it’s fun n no strings attached so I can find time to heal, be with someone safe for me, and .... yah there were a lot of reasons. His wife SENT him out on a road trip.

I have been out of the dating world FOREVER and both of these scenarios make me scratch my head. I read “just some guys” post about scotch n Netflix and thought .... that’s what I should do too. THEN..... I found myself signing up for scuba diving lessons..... and Machu Picchu trip.... I think I’m going off the deep end!! Have to get a passport, shots, and start working out now so I can hike up a mountain!!! Where was this “insanity” after the first affair??

Is this normal to jump into the deep end??? Machu Picchu was my “maybe someday” knowing we’d always do his wants first, meaning never for me . Stingrays are my favorite animal and I saw them snorkeling and I thought my heart would burst. Normal??? Or should I always wait 24 hours before doing something crazy?? Is anyone else running into just bizarre situations?? Am I attracting this??

8 comments posted: Monday, September 7th, 2020