Minnesota G2G
Ok- I'm down to host one. BUT- I work Saturdays now, so I need a co-host that can help me on Saturday during the day.
AND I need to know what dates are best. Minnesota can get hot and humid in the summer. Last time we did it here, I put a tent on my deck and we hung out there for one evening. The 2nd day we went to lunch and then to an Art Museum and then in the evening we went out to eat. Sunday morning we had brunch and said farewells in my house because the weather turned stormy. Or I can wait until September, but I don't want to infringe on the October TExas show.
So let me know what month works best for you, and I'll pick a weekend in that month that has the best response. -
Here we go!
7 comments posted: Tuesday, June 1st, 2021
Are we doing G2G's yet?
When do we start talking about these again?
7 comments posted: Thursday, May 27th, 2021
My 1st XW - perhaps a 2x4 is in order maybe.
I haven't been around as much as I used to. And I certainly haven't posted in NB if a long time. But I've been thinking and I would like some honest feedback.
So most people don't know, but Bitchtits (XWW) was not my first wife. I was married before to a girl I knew in college. Let's call her FW (First Wife). We D'd in 2001. We have stayed in touch and amicable since then. We have no kids together. She remarried within six months of our D. She got preggers and "did the right thing." She now has three kids. The youngest starts HS this year. She did not cheat on me. I would laugh at you if you suggested she did.
So over the years, we've stayed in touch marginally. We are both from Michigan and have mutual friends from college and it has been fine. When things blew up with XWW (AKA Bitchtits) and i was talking with FW about it, she said something along the lines of, "I would do whatever it took to not lose time with my kids." Tuck that in the back of you head. That was almost five years ago.
A couple months ago, she sent me a text or an email saying that someone had gotten a hold of her looking for me to see if I wanted to sell my house. (I don't.) She wouldn't give them my contact info, but gave me theirs. And we emailed back and forth for a couple weeks. (You can see where this might be going- you're not exactly right)- We talked about a project she's working on with her youngest kid. It was light. Friendly. Joked around.
And not once did she mention her husband. And so I stalked her FB page. And he's not anywhere in there. I asked around and she IS still married. But I don't think they do anything together. And now go back to that statement about doing whatever it took to not losing time with her kids.
I suspect she MIGHT be on a 4 year plan. That when her youngest kid leaves home, she might, too. And if she does, I would like another shot at a relationship with her. We've both grown a lot in the past 20 years. And I could see us together again.
I'm not currently pursuing her. I did text her happy birthday on her 50th birthday. I'm not going to pursue her unless she leaves her husband on her own accord.
I'm not trying to do anything to make her leave or want to leave her husband. I will not be OM.
I would say before she got in touch with me, it had been a year or two since we had communicated last.
So the question I'm asking is, how often is appropriate to check in and say hi. Once every three or four months? Once a year? Every other?
I'm open to the idea that it is not in any way appropriate. I"m asking because I'm not sure I can be objective.
And I can read this and see just absurd it sounds. And I assure you that if something were to come up before then, I am open to that. I'm not excluding all others (there any others anyway) holding out for this "maybe." But there's also something RomCom about it. College sweathearts marry. Doesn't work out. They get divorced. Each remarries. Each gets divorced and 25 years later, they get back together to spend their old age together. Stories for the step grandkids.
In typing this, I think I've decided that since I have a brain twitch about it, the best thing to do is steer clear. I can watch from afar, but in connecting every now and then, I'm overstepping my bounds. Especially since my intent is, if I'm being honest, to keep me in her mind, even if it is only once a year.
Ok- thank you everyone for helping me think that through. If there is something I missed, feel free to tell me. I'm open.
Mn
23 comments posted: Tuesday, September 15th, 2020
Who is coming to dinner?
Here are the rules:
1- You are hosting a dinner party.
2- You have to invite 10 people, all of whom are "famous" for some reason.
3- You don't have to explain why you chose them or even what they are famous for. But you can if you want.
4- That person must be currently alive.
5- No politicians
Bonus points: What are you serving?
Ready, set, go.
32 comments posted: Wednesday, April 29th, 2020
Upper Midwest G2G- zoom style
Any interest?
13 comments posted: Friday, April 24th, 2020
Upper Midwest G2G Final Answer
I say final- but let's tentatively put down the weekend of April 27, 28, 29 for the 2nd Annual MN/WI/Upper Midwest G2G at the Casa de MN.
Below is a list of who is coming. I will edit this post so it is current and then bump it so it's shown as updated so you don't necessarily have to read through all the way to see who's coming. Under the list of people is the tentative schedule
Who's Coming?
For sure:
Minnesota
K9Forever
Sisoon and Plainsong
xhz799 (complete with hot dish)
NowIKnow (AKA: NIK)
Probably:
better4me
Can't Sleep/Eat
risingfromtheashes
Maybe: (If you posted on the earlier thread, I put you down as "Maybe")
25yearslater
IceThee
Hosted by Minnesota and K9Forever
Friday- Meet and greet and drinks and appetizers at the Casa De Minnesota in St. Paul.
Saturday- AM bike ride around some of the many trails in St. Paul led by Sisoon and Minnesota. Lunch at someplace awesome in the Twin Cities, a fun activity unique to the Twin Cities to be Determined, and Dinner at someplace of our mutual choosing.
Sunday- Brunch at the Casa De Minnesota complete with mimosas and etc. Then Happy Trails.
There are several hotels and motels in the area of varying degrees of luxury or sketchiness. There is some (limited) space to stay at the Casa de Minnesota. First come first dibs on beds- when the beds run out, it's floor space in the living on air mattresses (or a tent in the back yard- good neighborhood.) Or you can park an RV in the street in front of the house.
[This message edited by Minnesota at 11:08 AM, March 8th (Thursday)]
42 comments posted: Monday, November 13th, 2017
Upper MIdwest G2G
So we did a Minnesota/Wisconsin area G2G in June and K9 and I both thought it was fun and said, "why not?"
So I talked to Sisoon, who is in Chicago and was wanting to plan a G2G at some point, but just can't pull it off right now.
So Here is the first official feeler for another Upper Midwest G2G. If we did another in the Twin Cities in the next twelve months or so, 1.) -- What time frame is best to work for you? (Be as specific or general as you would like) and 2.) How likely would you be to travel to the Twin Cities for a G2G? (not at all, probably not, maybe, probably I would, For Sure I would!)- and 3.)- in the Upper Midwest, is there someplace you would rather see a G2G? (For example, I know there are a lot of Illinoisisans, and Michiganians on this board and maybe Minnesota is too far go drive?)
The last one was really good, I thought. And so K9 and I agreed we'd see if there was interest and if so, let's do it again.
Minnesota and K9
19 comments posted: Saturday, July 8th, 2017
Mod please
I have an "is it allowed?" question.
1 comment posted: Tuesday, January 17th, 2017
Christmas icons on the side of our posts
Can I be the snowman? Please please?
2 comments posted: Wednesday, December 7th, 2016
What happens at a g2g?
I saw on another forum that someone was going to try to plan an Upper Midwest get together this fall, but it didn't end up happening because, well, you know. Life. So I thought, "Hey! maybe I should host one!"
But having never been to one, what happens? Does everyone just come and hang out on the deck and drink beverages and talk about our shitty luck? Should there be games? Horseshoes? Should one rent a hall? Charge admission? Hire a caterer? Coordinate hotel stays? Find enough air mattresses for people to sleep on the floor?
And I'm throwing this in the general forum because of the traffic, rather than the one I think it's probably supposed to go in hoping that I'm cute enough to only get slapped on the wrist a little when the Mods move it to the correct forum. So I guess the question would be:
If you have attended an IRL GTG, what was successful about it and what was not so successful?
If you have not, what do you think would make it worth your while to travel to and hang out in the Upper Midwest?
36 comments posted: Monday, September 12th, 2016
