Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

So now it’s my pet that needs your mojo and prayers

My sweet, fluffy boy is not eating. The vets run all the bloodwork tests, and the results didn’t indicate anything wrong. But this is a cat who eats too much and he’s now lost almost 2 pounds in just a week. He’s being sweeter than ever and still seems chipper and cheerful, but something very very wrong and of course over the weekend — you get nothing from the veterinary office.

I’ve only had him since 2020 and I’ve lost my last cat after just three years as well. I’m getting very tired I’m not having my pets live very long.(he was from the pound, so we’re not quite sure how old he is but the vets said he could be anywhere between eight and 12 years old right now)

Please send Mojo or prayers or positive thoughts or whatever you got. My heart is breaking.

16 comments posted: Sunday, November 19th, 2023

Anyone try or use Noom for help with weight loss?

I’ve used WW before, but I want to dry something different. Noom seems kinda similar (eg no restrictions on food types) but a little more cerebral. Anyone try it? Thoughts?

And anyone want to be an accountability buddy?

8 comments posted: Thursday, February 2nd, 2023

AmazonSmile being discontinued….

I always like that some small portion of my purchases went to an organization I like—. Like SI :-). Just got the notice today that Amazon is canceling the program. Bummer.

Boo Amazon.

6 comments posted: Wednesday, January 18th, 2023

A little tiny pity party for myself tonight

Saturday night and I am perusing some homes for sale listings because nothing to do with Covid raging around here. I see one for sale near my XWH;s house and the price is crazy high. I know that neighborhood well (we lived there in his house for a couple years before we bought one together). I knew he had fixed it up when we split a few years ago and I knew he retired last year. I also (dumb, I know), noticed that the AP had taken a job about 90 miles away. I thought they had fizzled. But while looking at the other house, I zoomed out and saw his house and the value. And then I clicked a little more and saw that there are other people living there now. So he probably moved with the AP.

I don’t want to be with him. I am doing fine. But it still feels like I am stuck and he moved forward.
(I am not stuck in any way except dating. I’ve bought a home, gotten better jobs, gotten my masters degree, built a great group of friends….)

Well crap. I guess this is my reminder to stay away from his business and not do this to myself.
I guess the upside is I don’t have to worry about running in to him at my favorite taqueria near there.

**sigh** I wish I was a faster learner on some of these lessons.

7 comments posted: Saturday, January 22nd, 2022

How to even start dating?

So how do I start dipping my toes in the dating pool?

I am feeling that I am ready but COVID has been a handy excuse.

OLD is the norm , but I am at a huge disadvantage since I am literally the least photogenic person alive. I’m okay in person, but in photos I am a troll. (Even dear friends confirm this) I think I have so much to offer now, but how to relay my awesomeness?

Do I just need to jump on and keep a thick skin?

Signed,

Terrified troll

4 comments posted: Monday, August 9th, 2021

“What Happened To You”

I’m reading this and loving it! It’s conversations on trauma, resilience, and healing by Dr. Bruce Perry and Oprah Winfrey. It’s fascinating and informative on how our brains react to trauma. For people with kids, I think this will be even more interesting. Highly recommend!

0 comment posted: Sunday, July 11th, 2021

Anyone else avoid this forum when first at SI?

When I first joined SI this forum was inexplicable to me.

How could anyone joke around when my world just imploded? Who can play games when I can’t think straight for more than 4 minutes at a time? I would almost get annoyed that people were being happy and light and fun!

Now I look forward to SPF every week.

Time truly is a healer.

10 comments posted: Thursday, December 10th, 2020

How To Break Your Addiction To A Person

How To Break Your Addiction To A Person By Howard Halpern, PHD

Anyone else read this? This is really helping me organize my thoughts, although the phrase “infant attachment” creeps me out. I am not sure i buy into the theory that these traits/attachments are from infancy, but the behavior part and how to separate from those behaviors resonates with me.

Anyone else read this? Thoughts?

3 comments posted: Monday, January 22nd, 2018

The Gifts of Imperfection

I am reading this as part of my healing...but it is not dazzling me like it has done for others. Why did you like it? What spoke to you?

6 comments posted: Thursday, April 27th, 2017