Setting in that we are done having kids
Hello everyone. I have once again stumbled out of my cave for a random rant. To recap: my wife had her A roughly 10 years ago. Dday for us will be 8 years next month. I would consider us to be in complete R. The work continues to be done and now our arguments are few and far between, with the A firmly behind us. Triggers are rare and are usually minor internal hiccups that I can get through rather easily.
So what brings me back? Well, together we have made the decision that I would be getting a vasectomy. The appointment is very soon. We only have one daughter and at the time of dday we were seriously contemplating going for the boy. By the time the dust settled, we felt too much time had past and it would be too hard on us to start over with another baby. During Covid we couldn't imagine having a baby in the house so the pill was a little easier to swallow.
I am confused as to what I'm feeling now. I don't blame her for the A disrupting our plans of another kid. But I still do feel the loss as I really wanted to try for a boy. I'm not angry or sad, but the reality is hitting me that we will be done. I FEEL.....but I don't know how to explain what I am feeling. Anyone else go through this?
8 comments posted: Thursday, February 1st, 2024
