Me: BS (61)
WW: 57
M: 33, together 37
2 grown girls
DDay: 2/13/16. Happy Valentines Day, chump!

Slowly reconciling.

"I don't remember!!!"

I am close to 9 years out. Its rarely spoken about, I feel that things are going as well as they could be. OM is out of the picture (even out of the country), he is divorced now and last I checked his SM, he's shacked up with a slut half his age. Open phone policy, passwords, etc.

So I was a little surprised when she asked me about Whatsapp. Asked me if I knew how it works, do I have it, etc.....

A little backstory on Whatsapp - when I first busted her, I hooked her Android up to my computer and went through every single file I could find. I came across Whatsapp and tore it apart, I found several sent pics, showing super revealing cleavage with her face included. I was livid, but never mentioned it to her at the time, since I was dealing with so much other crap found.

So I played along and asked her why she wanted it. She said her friend uses it and friend wanted her to use it since that's the only way friend communicates. (Friend is an older lady who is very tech challenged). So I wound up telling WW that I'm not comfortable with her having it because of her affair. WW was like, what are you talking about? So I told her the whole story about how I picked apart her old phone, file by file, and came across her whatsapp folder and found pics on it. She's like, "I had whatsapp? Do you still have the pics? I swear, I don't ever remember using it or even having it." Of course, the phone and files are long gone, so there's no evidence now. "I've been an open book for almost 9 years, why would I blow it now? Why would I even ask if I thought this would be a trigger? I swear, I had no idea I used it, if I did, I just don't remember....it was 9 years ago...and what I DO remember is everytime i tried to lie my way out of something, you caught me, so I've been as honest as I can be. You have my fuil permission to look through everything whatsapp related on here if you want" - and handed me the phone.

Is this possible? I mean, tbh, the further away this affair goes, the less I'm remembering. Whats everyones thoughts on this? Oh yeah, I let her add whatsapp to her phone, but she hasn't even used it yet.

22 comments posted: Thursday, September 12th, 2024

I don't want to reconcile anymore

Mod - pls delete

6 comments posted: Tuesday, August 22nd, 2023