how infuriating and nonsensical "the affair was not real" sounds

This is a bit of a spin-off from @cedarwoods topic, but I think it is a valuable and useful spin-off. I don't know if the partner who cheated understands how infuriating and nonsensical that sounds. And painful and insulting. It is really Wayward Thinking. Period.

I mean, it is 100% real in that you entered into the relationship UNDER YOUR OWN AGENCY. YOU, yes, you, were the one who DECIDED, IN REAL LIFE to give your love, attention, body, AND trust to someone else instead of me. The feelings you felt were just as intense as the feelings you felt when we were falling in love. You used the very same words and said them with the very same feeling. Now, just because a relationship is toxic just does not change that.

In fact, as far as I am concerned, it even makes the pain WORSE. Not only did you chose someone else instead of me, but to add insult to injury, the someone else you picked over me is a total asshat and on some level you even knew this--or SHOULD HAVE known this--yourself. Damn!

211 comments posted: Friday, December 22nd, 2023

Removing icons from a post

Hi,

I was replying to someone and I inadvertently hit the smiley icon in what was a heart-wrenching thread. How do I get rid of it? I did not see any option to do so when editing my post.

And meanwhile, why even have that option anyway, and why make it difficult to change/remove icons. The feature seems to me to be more trouble than it is worth. It is just much too easy to click on something inappropriate. I wasn't even aware of the icon feature here until a few days ago!

[This message edited by WontBeFooledAgai at 11:38 AM, April 19th (Monday)]

2 comments posted: Monday, April 19th, 2021