Who here just hates their spouse

I’ve decided to reconcile but I still hate my husband!

21 comments posted: Saturday, October 14th, 2023

Stuck between a marriage and a hard place

I am going on year 2ish of reconciliation and am having a hard time trying to figure out if I made the right choice.

Ultimately, I decided to reconcile (this is after over a year of him lying and cheating, emotionally and physically) because we have 3 young children and I didn’t want to split time with my H 50/50.

After we reconciled I grew to love him again. Things were going amazing and then he f*ed up, AGAIN. He started talking to the women he originally had the affair with. He says there was no "cheating" but talking as "friends." (She lives in another state so the physical would be hard, I’m concerned about the emotional shit)After I caught him yet again (in July of this year) I decided to forgive and move on but I just can’t help but think, it doesn’t matter what I do I can’t change the happiness of this man I’m married to.

He keeps telling me he’s in this marriage for the long haul and no matter what he’s going to be faithful and he’s committed to this marriage….he has gotten counseling help since I caught him this last time and he seems genuinely committed to our marriage. Being in this marriage is making ME crazy. I want to support him, but to what extent? How far from my own happiness am I supposed to be to accommodate someone I think will never be happy?

I’m just trying to get things off my chest. Thanks for reading!

6 comments posted: Saturday, October 14th, 2023