Pls help! Need tips on surviving forced cohabitation with WW.

I am stuck 24/7 with my cheating, STBXW in our marital home, since we both have to work remotely. We can't afford to live separately, because I over-extended myself to build her dream home. Now we are stuck together until we finish the D and sell the house. She is still seeing the AP and goes to his apartment a couple of times a week. It still hurts me so bad every time! I wish I could get over it, but I can't. I get overtaken by rage and lash out at her verbally or via text every time. I have explained how this is a trigger for me, but she doesn't give a shit. Does anyone have any good tips to help with this situation? See more background below.

We have been together 23 yrs, married for 18. D-day was over a year ago, but I didn't file for D until a few months ago because of stupid hopium. We have 4 teen kids and I was desperate to try and keep our family together. She led me on by telling she wanted to try like 6 times, only for me to catch her with the AP every time after hundreds of lies.

She is an emotional wreck, and hasn't been a mother to our kids for almost 2 years. She is literally like a drug addict with this affair. I do everything to take care of the kids (grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, getting the girls homecoming dresses, etc.) while she sits and talks about how she is the victim. The kids feel abandoned since she moved out for a 6 month period to "figure out her feelings". She ran out of money and had to move back home. The court said I had to let her back into the house.

AP is the Dad of one of my daughter's friends. I did not know him, which made it harder to figure out. The guy is an alcoholic who cheated on his first wife to destroy his own family. He cold messaged my wife on her "hot profile pic" on FB and proceeded to meet with her to give her marital advice (the POS is a fucking certified life coach). The affair went on for about 6 mo.s before I figured it out.

11 comments posted: Thursday, October 21st, 2021