Amazing song and video
Just happened upon a new song from Godsmack. Its a soft ballad about an affair from the BS POV. The song is called truth. I highly recommend it. It might be triggering to some though.
13 comments posted: Wednesday, March 6th, 2024
Questions to the Wayward Spouses who tried again
Hello. My story is in my profile. I have been divorced for several years now. I divorced my WW of over 20 years due to an infidelity that occurred at the start of our relationship. We have been cordial since the divorce. We have 2 kids. 1 is an adult and the other is very soon to be 18.
My wife has been interested in giving things another try. I cant say I am not interested but I can never love her the way I did before. I dont think she expects it either.
Anyway. We are entertaining the idea of dating each other again. Since our divorce, I have not dated or seen anyone. I dont kow if my ex has or not. I tried to stay out of her private life. I dont think she has seen anyone but I know she would likely not tell me either out of respect for me or that she might think it would hurt our chances of being together again.
My questions are as follows:
I dont know that I could date my wife if she slept with another person. I know we havent been married and her life is hers to live, but there is something about being replaced during the marriage and to think it might have happened after that gets me PTSDing. How have people navigated this conversation or situation?
Since all Waywards are capable liars, how do I trust what she says?
I am wanting to put the past behind me, but I am unsure that I am able to do so. I have been to therapy and I am taking more meds than I want to handle my shifting moods. I have been given the okay from my therapist to give this a try.
I am not in any rush to be intimate but I do miss having someone to spend time with. I obviously have known my ex for a long time and I am comfortable with her (to an extent.)
If or when things do get to that point of intimacy, how did you navigate reestablishing intimacy? I will never tell my ex that I am in love with her and I wonder if other have done the same.
To the waywards that wanted a second chance and was given the opportunity, How did you handle your BS and restarting a relationship? What were some unexpected situations that came up and how did you handle them? Was this difficult for your BS and were you successful in your second chance or what caused it to fail?
Any help would be appreciated. There has been so many great Waywards on this site. I respect all of you that have tried to be better, not just for their spouses, but for themselves.
TIA
86 comments posted: Sunday, January 28th, 2024
