Me: BW- 45Him: WH - 50AP -26, coworkerDDay10/3/2021, now engaged to OW 01/01/22Married 17 years, together 21 years3 kidsserved separation papers 1/22
Divorce final 11/22New relationship with boyfriend 35 for 1 year and a half. OW - 49, found out 1/3

Back on here…again

Unfortunately, I am back on here. I had a new beginning after my ex husband cheated. Happy to say I am in a good place with the ex and ow for my kids. How we, I was just in a 1 1/2 relationship with man 12 years my junior. We met on a dating app and his wife had cheated on him with this best friend. Great guy had things in coming, fell head over heels for him. We introduced each other to kids - not a smart move. Just last week after him giving me the run arrounf about being sick, possibly losing his business, house and kids, he was just bread crumbing me and spewing lies, he blocked me from Facebook and my friend found another woman, older than me saying she was in a relationship with him on Facebook. Since December. While we were still together and for the holidays.

There is sooooo much more to this story but he manipulated me. I fell for it. Made me think he had heavy metal blood poisoning that was cause his mood to be off. Telling me he had not money. I bought his kids gifts for Christmas. And that was the last time o saw him. He help by a string. He needed space, then didn’t. Kept telling me he loved me. I tried to break up with him last month and he said no, he needed me to hold on. Yeah because he had a new girl and needed to see where it would go. How did I let this happen to me again? I saw the signs.

The he love bombing in the beginning. Telling me I was his soulmate. He wish we would have met me years ago so we would have had our happily ever after. The lies I caught him in, the socks I found in November. The I would never cheat I am not a cheater.

I am struggling worse this time around than my ex husbands affair a few years ago and we were together a lot longer. I am trying not to spiral but today was an awful emotional day. Any advice would be great. I don’t want to go through another relationship with infidelity. I know I need to work on me and love me but it’s so much easier said than done.

7 comments posted: Tuesday, February 6th, 2024