Post Divorce Spousal Support Changes in another State

Hello everyone.

I am now officially divorced after a long six month battle. The divorce happened in TX and the ex did not receive spousal support. She however recently moved to California and plan on being a resident there.

Can she, later on, ask for spousal support through the courts in CA even though she was denied in Texas once she becomes a CA resident?

I'm asking because I'd like to also move to CA so I can see my son, but once I become a resident, does that leave me vulnerable?

Thank you all. Two years since dd, a long road to detaching, therapy and I'm finally free of her serial cheating.

5 comments posted: Saturday, January 6th, 2024

Am I Getting a bad deal??

Hi everyone.

I posted long ago about finding out my wife's affair. This forum has been such a huge help to me. I was on ptsd mode for about three months before seeing a therapist.

Long story short, I'm finally divorcing her after two years since dday.

I'd like to know your thoughts about the deal we are about to make if I'm getting screwed.

We were in CA and now reside in TX so alimony/ss is not so crazy.

split everything even as far as bank, investments, child, etc...

only two things. I have to pay max child support in TX at 1840 which I don't mind since I make more than her...BUT the one thing that bothers me is the spousal support.

This person cheated, lied and slandered me, but is asking for four years support after child support at 2k a month.

that's 3.5 years left before our son turns 18 and then the spousal support starts. I feel like I'm locked in with this person for another 7.5 years when all I want to do is get away from her.

Should I take the deal or go to trial. If we go to trial these are the pros and cons.

if jurisdiction lands in CA, she can ask for more money and longer spousal support since CA anything over 20 years of marriage can be brutal. So this is very risky to me.

if jurisdication lands in TX, then she only gets child support. BUT right now, she's willing to setting regardless of jurisdiction with the deal mentioned above.

Do I take the chance of CA getting jurisdiction or should I just go with the four year ss settlement?

Thanks for reading and I appreciate any thoughts or advice.

12 comments posted: Monday, August 14th, 2023