Me BS (31) WS (31) EA/PA
D-Day 3/22
2 young children and pregnant with third
Done being a doormat

WS Signed a Lease... Devastated

We are almost a month out from DDay and WS has been waffling back and forth the entire time. AP is an employee of his and they have continued contact throughout. He has been looking at apartments off and on throughout, but then surprised me a week and a half ago by saying he wanted to work on things and commit to trying to save the M. That was short-lived, and within 24 hours he admitted that he made the wrong decision and never should have told me he wanted to work on things. It has been rough here ever since...

This morning I received a text that WS signed a lease for an apartment in our town and moves in at the end of the month. He also mentioned custody arrangements for the kids, child support, etc. I am devastated. D is the last thing I want, and I am still very much in the stage of loving him and wanting to fight for my marriage. I am feeling so lost and hopeless as a result of this new development. Like it really is the end.

I have an appointment with an attorney next month (the earliest they could get me in) and am committed to protecting myself and my children. Financially I am not in a position to make it on my own. WS said he wants the process to be as amicable as possible due to coparenting. He states he is not in a hurry to D.

I guess I am just looking for advice/support from those who have been left by the WS. I do not want separation and it feels so violating to be stripped of choice.

35 comments posted: Saturday, April 16th, 2022