My WS just had their first "slip/relapse"
My partner and I are 2 years post Dday, where I found out he had been soliciting sex. We are 6 months full therapeutic disclosure. I have seen a tremendous amount of growth and change on both of our parts. Things between March and the beginning of June have been incredibly cathartic and healing.
We have been doing a lot of work.
Needless to say, things got very busy in June with our business and we went on vacation in July.
Over vacation, he had his first slip since discovery. I discovered that he had gone on the Bunny Ranch website while I was asleep next to him in bed. He has completely recommitted to his recovery since this has happened.I also understand that relapse is a part of recovery. That being said, it has completely retraumatized me. I am spinning out of control. The things that used to bother me post-disclosure are back. Images, intrusive thoughts, etc. I am starting to wonder if anyone can ever truly resolve these issues for themselves.Is this going to be a storm on the horizon the rest of our lives?
For the first time since D-Day I am starting to feel like I can't deal with this. I love him so much. I am proud of the work he has done, but when is enough enough.
9 comments posted: Saturday, August 12th, 2023
