With my affair i did not only ruined my marrage i also ruined Dad and daughter relationship
Hello and this is my first time posting in survivinginfidelity Sorry for my English it's not my first language and I don't use my English as much
I'm a 55 years old woman married for 32 whit 3 children.
On July 15, 2020, I started having an emotional affair with a guy I end up meeting online he messages me on Facebook, and I'm not sure why the hell I responded, but that transformed in a friendship that changed into EA we just talked almost every day we could not meet because of covid lockdowns. This started to change, and we became more open talking about my BH sex with him how we stopped some time, very personal stuff that I should not have shared... we started sending nudes to each other pics and videos,
on September 20, 2020
i told him that wanted to stop all sexting and sending the nudes and all that because I was filling guilty. That we could continue to be friends, but that was it, and he accepted.
On January 5, 2021
The lockdowns down were removed, and he started trying to invite me down i always said not that could not do that but i never made any effort from removing him from my friends lists or block him.
On February 14,2021
In Valentine days, my BH did not want to do anything too much work and tiered just wanted to relax i asked him if was ok to go at night with some friends that were having a small gathering he told me yes that i go. Im not sure something inside me broke i knew what i was about to do was wrong but wanted something new and exciting in my life so contacted my online friend and asked if he had plans for the night he told me no, and we agreed to see each other in a bar in the end all you imagine we end up going back to his place and that when it turned into my AP. I can't like the sex was mind-blowing different on everything was so new for me the passion the flame and end up staying all night calling my BH that i would stay in my friends house, and he was ok with it
On July 2 2021
This is when I think I did my biggest fucked up I should have ended it and tell my BH and accepting was coming for me. my home was alone and my AP and i end up fucking in my bed we had done it few times before and we both liked it more than any place. What we did not know my daughter she's 21 she came earlier than expected and heard us fucking dad was out of the county, and she knew then i was cheating she left the house and came back 3 hours later when she confronted me. I broke down she told me she was going to tell her dad and brother and sister It's when i started to beg and said i would give her anything to her plus if she told her father that I was having an affair she would have been responsible for me and her dad break. In the end, she ends up agreeing with me asked me to rise her monthly allowance and be able to stay the night with her bf when she wanted something I always said no, I agreed.
From July to December 2021
I started seen my ap more and more, daughter would even cover for me that we were going somewhere she would go with her bf and I would go to AP house we would agree where we went and tell that story to BH.
January 22, 2022 D-Day happened
BH suspected something was going on. BH puts a GPS on my car to know where I'm going when he saw where I was going was lie he went and arrived to a motel he almost had a fight with front desk where they gave our room number and keys, he came in and found me in all 4 taking it up my ass.... shouting started me crying my BH end up beating ap, and he saw me which so much pain in his eyes I knew I had broken him. i hated my self told me to but some cloths on, and he would be waiting home and wanted some answers. i changed and went back home i complete broke down asked for forgives I knew how bad I fucked up, but I end up answering all his questions did not tell him that daughter she knew he made me pick up some cloths and trowed me out of the house.
I did not heard anything for a month i was able to rent a small apartment and started to look for jobs i cut off all contact with ap but well my daughter broke down with guilt and confessed that she knew and did not tell him anything told what happened back in July. He end up calling me even more angry even worse when he saw me in the motel i had to go pick up my daughter she has been living with us after this her bf broke with her.
Now this past 7 months been real hard my oldest son and oldest daughter the ones that did not know about all this stopped talking to me. My youngest the one that knew has swings of emotion and depression, we have gone to a therapist and things have been improving. I also have done solo therapy to try to improve my self, to learn about my doings. I have talked 8 times in person to my BH he hasn't filed for divorced he says he is not sure if he can but there been too much going on that he was betrayed not only from me also her own daughter and that one hurt even more than the affair I had been complete open to him gave him everything I had all the text messages and Facebook he asked me for everything, so I did. I have said that I would do anything to fix things with him and daughter even if that means that our marriage would end I would take that because I completed fucked over my daughter and the thing I want to see her is happy same for him that was the last time we talked he seemed a bit better and just said he would think about it (he has also going to therapy).
Sorry for this long post was refreshing letting everything out, I'm not sure if anyone can help me with recommendation on how I could fix dad and daughter relationship.
10 comments posted: Wednesday, August 3rd, 2022
