They had a baby

Their baby is now a few months old

OW (now GF as they have been together a long time, he has been gone a long time and is STBX) seems to be apart from the baby a lot

My IC says she probably didn’t want the baby
ie baby trapped him

She is so not a nice person
Neither is he

Sorry to type here I just didn’t know where else to put it

7 comments posted: Tuesday, June 13th, 2023

Struggling

It’s hard that he has seemingly rebuilt life - new girlfriend who he now has a child with; family and friends rallied round THEM despite the horrendous way he left me for her.
It is hard to build up life because he left me with kids that need a lot of attention (I am a carer to one of them who has additional needs), and I don’t have the family support that he and the girlfriend have

4 comments posted: Monday, May 29th, 2023

Narcissistic abuse survivors

Is there anyone on here that has been through this?

I realise now STBX is a narcissist

He still won’t let me go

I need to talk to other survivors to get through this
Can anyone relate or know of any resources that might help

16 comments posted: Saturday, January 14th, 2023

Loneliness

It is LONELY

There I said it

I don’t know what the answer is

But it is LONELY

16 comments posted: Monday, January 9th, 2023

So difficult

I don’t even know what to say

Today has been particularly difficult

Hoping saying it here gets it off my chest

31 comments posted: Thursday, December 22nd, 2022

OW pregnant during separation

Bit of a bombshell
It’s been a 4 year separation and he’s been with her almost as soon as he left, living together for a few years now too.

I was heavily pregnant when he went

He’s been visiting the kids in the family home all this and I was trying to reconcile. Although turns out he was not.

He emailed me the news
- and she’s through got through the first trimester

The shock has subsided, a little, but the grief has not

There could never be a reconciliation now, because the child would be a reminder & he would always have a connection to her. So it’s over.

Hard to bear

13 comments posted: Sunday, September 4th, 2022