Not sure what to think

Me a 58-year M married to Wife 56-year F married 30+ years. Up and down life pretty much like anyone else no reason to doubt her until yesterday when she told me joking that you might hear that me and my boss are having an affair, just in case you hear from anyone else. I don't know anyone that works with her as a friend or through social media so my mind started thinking this must be motivated by fear. She tells me I'm crazy and it's just a joke and get over it. Not sure what to think to be honest as I'm constantly thinking about it. I found his wife on social media and said I was going to share the joke with her, and her response was if you do, I'll never speak to you again as I have to work there. Am I being paranoid or should I believe her. I'm not really sure. Any advice would be gratefully appreciated.

Thanks to all for the advice, it's very much appreciated. To answer some of the questions, yes, a lot more phone activity with locking it if I come close. More effort in appearance when going to work. No night outs with the girls or unexpected business overnights. Just going to work earlier where perhaps my suspicions about being no one else being present have me wondering? My gut as was mentioned is telling me something's wrong and since this arose, I'm getting a lot more attention now which is uncomfortable as she wasn't like this for years. It just doesn't add up and as said I need to be more proactive and follow the leads by using some of the suggestions supplied by you kind folks.

I feel numb in answer to that question. I'm continuing to investigate as recommended by so many of you kind respondents. Latest updates I was able to access her phone and can see clearly that she removed him as a contact and also deleted a WhatsApp chat with him. She claimed that it was to save me further worry but I don't see that as plausible. Why do this now and furthermore lie that she had not been in recent contact with him. She forgot she gave me his number so I could clearly see a conversation that she had with him on Nov 02nd. She feigns even remembering this call and is uncertain what it was about. Really odd considering the comment about removing him as a contact don't you think? I know we're done at this point but need to find the hard evidence of which I'm looking at the options that you kind folks shared already.

24 comments posted: Tuesday, October 18th, 2022