Can I get over this

2 days ago I found screenshots of s naked woman on my husbands phone.

It turns out she was FaceTiming him and he screenshot the photos.
When I confronted him he admitted that he had kissed her twice 2 years ago and then kissed her again in last couple of months and 2 weeks ago (that’s when the FaceTime was) he said she w***led him off that last time and he freaked out.

He seems extremely remorseful and wants to go to counselling and couples counselling (I said I wanted to leave and he is begging me to just try)

We have 2 young children, and my family are all 4 hours away so if I leave I will be moving home.

I feel his words are nothing.

Previously I have found inappropriate messages on his phone. And when we very first got together I overlapped with someone else.

I feel like an absolute mug, I was suspicious of this woman and ask him to be honest for years.

I feel everything is a lie and betrayal

Our relationship was otherwise 80% good.

The kids are mt world and I hate the idea of them having to split their time.

Do I try and give it a go to rebuild our what was good family unit? Or is enough enough and he will never change.

The past few years have been stressful but that no excuse, his dad went into a care home and has since passed and we’ve had to enter an iva.

Sorry I’m waffling now, I was directed here from another forum - a lot of which replies were walk away. He will never change - and I do feel that can be true but I need to hear from people who think it could work or have had it work for them so I can truly think about everything
One very upset and broken mummy xxxxx

14 comments posted: Friday, November 11th, 2022