Remind me that it’s not about me
DDay was 2 months ago.
WS has shown no remorse, has barely apologized, and has rushed off to his life with the AP
We were married 10 years. I had always made it quite clear that cheating was an absolute dealbreaker for me. I guess I always knew on some level he was capable of it. I’m not sure if he would have tried to work on the marriage if I hadn’t made it clear to him that the marriage would be over if he cheated, but the truth is that I would have taken him back if he had apologized, cried, begged, shown remorse. But I got none of that. He’s been so cold.
I have done the 180 intuitively, learning about it on her afterwards. But it hasn’t made a difference
He says our marriage had been broken for a while and that we weren’t compatible. I had zero clue up until DDay that he felt this way. He never told me he was unhappy with the marriage, not once. We had our issues (especially surrounding the stress of having kids) but mostly it seemed good. We had fun, laughed, joked around, had good sex.
I feel like my life was ripped away from me and I was never given the chance to fix it. I would have done anything if I had known.
I’m having a particularly hard day. I feel like there’s something awful and unloveable about me that I just can’t see.
17 comments posted: Monday, January 2nd, 2023
