Gosh I need advice

So I’ve been with husband for 12years we have 2 beautiful children. He’s fab at home and the kids love him.
I’ve found messages from prostitutes since 2012.. he’s always denied it or said he gets a kick from messaging them.
He admitted he went to meet one when I found messages but he swore he didn’t go through with anything.
Anyway - the day started well a few days ago then he called me said well done for sorting daughters Bday that day. Asked for his wedding ring back that he had thrown at me a good few months ago. As we had been getting on really well. He had bought me flowers.
I look at his bank account he had spent money about 100miles away from home. He said he has had to go there for a work.
I check how I watch as this is how I found messages before and there was a suspicious message. So I messaged it asking if they were free? How much they charged. Lo and behold another prostitute and she gave me her postcode which was the same place 100miles away!
I’m devastated. He’s admitted it for the first time and said he will do anything to save our marriage. We tried counselling before and he made me and the counsellor believe it was a one off.
I’ve found 5-6 messages since 2012 and god knows what else he’s been up to.
I’ve said we will divorce / separate and split the house but it’s killing me! I love him.
It’s gonna be q long road and we have to live together now as we both can’t afford to move at the moment.
He’s suggested tracking devices and bank account control but I’m not daft there are ways around this.
We had an active sex life. He’s said he honestly doesn’t know why he does it.
I want to start a fresh but I don’t know if I’m strong enough - the kids are happy. Doing well at school. He works long hours and always have so I’ve practically bought them up myself anyway.
If I walk away I know he will carry on doing it. So maybe I should stick around to help him. But I know for sure it’s a long road and I’m not even sure he’s admitted he’s got a problem.
Help!

11 comments posted: Friday, February 17th, 2023