This hurts

So a few weeks ago , I found out my wife had feelings for a 17 year old . So me and my wife have been married for 10 years and have two kids . Our marriage has its up and downs but overall it was a great marriage . This past year I noticed my wife becoming more and more distant , but at the same time more and more nice but like in a guilty way. She is a teacher and I found out she devolved feelings for a 17 year old boy . So she purposely tried to spend time with him , time after school , she’s friends with his mom so she’d accept movie nights at their house . And they would text a lot too . Now my wife says nothing happened at all . And I do belive nothing physical Happened and I don’t even think the boy even knew she had feelings . She said she didn’t have her guard up intially and didn’t think anything was wrong because he was young . So long story short it was basically emotional cheeting that even the guy wasn’t even aware of. What hurts is a couple things , that she needed a void filled by another person . That she lied to me all this time . That had I not caught it sooner it could have been much much worse . I thought about leaving but ultimately I couldn’t stand the thought of my kids being traumatized by this . She does seem genuinely remorseful and said she is willing to do whatever I ask to make it up . Am I a idiot for staying ?

16 comments posted: Monday, May 8th, 2023