How did this happen?
I’ve been married for 15 years, together for 20. Having an issue with one of his kids so checked his phone to see if they were chatting about it. Discovered texts from "her", confronted him and he told me that they had been having an affair for 12 years. Although they were only physical for the first 3 years, they have kept in touch. There were only 12 months of texts but it was very evident that my husband was persistent in texting her (19 out of the 20 sets of texts) and she wasn’t engaging the way he had hoped and yet he continued. This happened 2 weeks ago and my world is blown apart. We have decided not to tell anyone besides our therapist and I feel so alone. Heartbroken, shocked, depressed.
He downplays the texts and has now blocked her, we sent her a text saying I knew and he would not be in any contact with her. I have complete access to all his electronics now.
Reaching out on here for some support and opinions. I honestly have no idea what I should do.
8 comments posted: Wednesday, May 24th, 2023
