New & need help with evidence

Hi all, I’ve been here reading posts for the last few days. I really can’t believe that this is happening to me but I need help gathering evidence.
Have been married 22 years, 2 children ages 16 & 20. My husband had an emotional affair (and at least a kiss) with a friend of ours about 11 years ago. It was devastating to me as I was completely blindsided & had never suspected anything. I thought things were over between them but throughout the next 1-2 years I found out they were still in contact & I believe they had met up as well. My husband always denied having sex with her. Needless to say this eroded the trust in our relationship & I never have truly trusted him since.
I became very good at snooping…checking his phone when I could get access etc. There’s more to the story but what brings me here today is I believe he is having at least an emotional affair with our neighbor. I recently became suspicious again…just a gut feeling. They are using Snapchat to communicate & of course everything disappears. She is his #1 bff on the app & they have a streak of 16 days. That much I can see….but I need to see some messages! I tried a phone spying app but his there’s no jailbreak for the latest version of iOS so I can’t see any snap data. How do I get my eyes on his snap messages???
I need solid proof before I confront him. Thank you for any help you can give me! 💗

13 comments posted: Sunday, July 16th, 2023