Separation after infidelity but feel rubbish

7 comments posted: Monday, September 11th, 2023

When will my husband stop pressuring me

Hi everyone I have posted on previous forums but I am still really struggling. My husband cheated on me for 3 years with escorts I exposed him because I checked his phone bills when things didn’t seem right and found all the proof I needed.
This was back in may now he lied and lied until he gave in and told me everything. I kept calm and allowed him to stay at the house and sleep on the sofa to start with but he kept bombarding me daily to the point I could not take anymore and asked him to move out.
He’s been gone about 6 weeks now but he turns up at the house daily I have asked
Him about putting a plan into place but he freaked out and was like why this is my house I should be able to come back here when I like.
He keeps telling me how he’s sorry and he’s showed enough remorse now and expects
Forgiveness which I have told him i cannot give him. He keeps
Buying me gifts and offering to take me places. He’s logged into all my social media and read all my conversations with trusted Friends he threatens suicide as all he wants is his family back.
He is unloading every single feeling onto
Me without realising that it’s him that has caused this situation in the first place, I have tired to help him in the past with gambling and he ignored me and continued now it’s developed into this and he expects me to understand which I don’t,
I feel so disrespected but also scared at how he is acting like I have no entitlement to feel the way I do.
Every day he calls me and turns up asking how long this will be for and when he will be able to
Get his life back, I have asked for space and told him we are not together anymore but he just won’t accept it. It’s getting worse and worse by the day, people keep telling me to change the locks etc but I don’t want to cause any upheaval for my 3 kids who don’t have a clue what is going on. I have told him I don’t want to talk about it anymore and just want space but he brings it’s up multiple times a day, he called me this morning and was shouting at me saying everyone is laughing about him behind his back and we are all taking the piss out of him which is not true. I don’t know how to cope or deal with this while he is so
Unstable and I’m concerned for his welfare but he won’t do anything about it .
I feel like everything he feels he wants to take it out on me as I’m
The only person that can fix it for him with forgiveness, is this normal? When will this emotional bombarding stop?I feel like I am sinking

5 comments posted: Thursday, August 24th, 2023

Husband had Sex with escorts for 3 years

Hi everyone
i am looking for some support/guidance.
I found out 8 weeks ago today that my husband has been cheating on me for 3 years with escorts. I exposed him by sensing something was wrong after constant money withdrawals and I checked his phone bill and googled numbers. He took around 5 days to admit to me after telling me every single lie under the sun his phone has been hacked etc etc, he then admitted to the bare minimum until fully confirming my worst fears, he’s had full sex with them he’s seen up to 50 women and his reasons are now he’s claiming to have a sex addiction brought on by stress of losing his aunt and his sisters breast cancer diagnosis he said instead of speaking about his stress he pressed the self destruct button, this makes absolutely no sense to me at all as to why on earth anyone would do that? I’m so confused, obvs now he is all sorry pleading forgiveness and insisting that he will change but he won’t accept that I just cannot accept that and why should I? Not only that he’s treated me like a doormat no respect despite what he’s been doing he’s been lazy round the house snappy at me even accused me of being emotionally distant. When I say I can’t move forward he threatens to take his own life, I have honestly never felt so lost and on edge in my life, we have 3 kids together so you can imagine how bad I feel but I don’t know where to go or how to navigate with the way he is acting, I don’t want him to do anything stupid and ruin all our lives but I feel so stuck, he’s been staying at home and sleeping on the sofa as he has nowhere to go, I asked for space and he has now gone to his parents but comes back every day and tries to talk, I am drained, please help me :(

44 comments posted: Tuesday, August 1st, 2023