Should I be worried by the opposite gender "emotional support" being provided to my BS
All,
Just after Easter my wife went through my work computer. Historically as the US this would worry me about whether i had hidden everything I was doing. But in this case I was pleased to have no worry at all. I am an open book with technology with my wife. In doing that check my wife was re-triggered because she saw private browsing mode and in a youtube tab there was a "click here to meet women ...." add in the top right corner.
I had been very open about why i use private browsing mode for over two years now but this is now not right and these two facts have retriggered her trauma.
Up to now keeping the knowledge of my infidelity and our separation private from our workplaces has been important for both of us. On the weekend when discussing this my wife shared that one of her bosses asked her how she was and she shared some of this information. In the one breath she said that he had been providing some emotional support for her and she felt cared for and said it wasnt an emotional affair. when I asked she wasnt clear when he started providing the support. I get the perspective of a boss supporting their worker who is working through marriage issues but given my workbased affair I also know that providing emotional support can be a slippery slope for inappropriate sharing and complaining that then leads to EA's and/or PA's.
Should I be worried?
10 comments posted: Friday, April 19th, 2024
