Will we ever be happy?
We are about 8 months out from DDay. Things aren't too volatile any more and we generally co-exist fine but not with much affection. We've both had IC and MC. For context, I was the WS and had a predominantly EA over long-distance that was on occasion a PA, which lasted around 8 months. I am still putting in the work with safe behaviours and reading/research.
I am just wondering if it is possible that my BS will ever be happy again? I can't see them ever loving me again. Not fully anyway, and certainly not in the same way as before. How do you move past the feeling that things will never be ok again?
They have said that they only want R for the sake of being a proper family for our children. I worry that it isn't fair for them to be sad for however many months and years it takes to realise that they can't feel the same again.
8 comments posted: Thursday, August 17th, 2023
