A story.....of reconciliation?
I am going to tell you the story of me... As a child.
I am the third child and only girl. My parents divorced when I was just 6 months old. You guessed right. My father met another woman, he was much richer than my mother, he thought he was inluuuuv, they divorced.
I never saw them together, I never experienced being in one family. We were coming and going from one house to the other. There were fights and "hatred". You had to take sides. Constantly. You had to choose where to go for Christmas or new years' or Easter or summer vacations. Who was the loneliest and to whom you had to be a good daughter or son.
My father's luuuuv lasted 6 months. I think it ended as soon as he got divorced. As his daughter, I would say that he met a lot of women, he even got married and divorced again, but his life was generally sad.
My mother, who was in general an angry woman, met my stepfather two - three years after the divorce and stayed with him for another 35. He was a good, gentle man. He died in 2021.
So my mother was alone and my father was alone. They call each other because my mother wanted to borrow something from my father. He invited her to stay with him for a little while. Because "he is alone and she is alone" . After some time, He gave her the ring of their wedding (she had lost hers). They are together the last 15 months. She is 78. My father is 82. I am 45.
Last Christmas I was kind of shocked that I managed to talk to wish to both of them merry Christmas in one call. I was shocked that I saw them sleeping together in the same bed. I am shocked that they seem to get along and my mother seems to manage his sad personality like nobody else did.
I Let them watch my children for a few days during summer for the first time. My dad was absolutely happy... Beyond words.... My mother too.
A friend of mine told me:"you know, actually your parents just gave you the finger". She is right. They divorced, they fought, they lived their lives, we suffered, all three of us, and, because of age differences, we suffered in different ways and in different degrees and NOW they got back together.
I just said to them, that now there is no going back. That's it. Our kids saw them together and they are not going to play with them too. "So put any minor problems aside".
My parents don't know about me and wh. I don't know what to do with that story, and I know it's a little flat... But I guess I have to present it as flat because for us, the kids, me and my brothers, this is a straight line from then to today....
7 comments posted: Thursday, September 12th, 2024
