Dealing with the Pain

So glad I discovered SurvivingInfidelity.com. The D-Day of my wife's affair is January 10, 2024. She carried on the affair from March, 2023 until mid-September, 2023. We've been married 26 years, and we have our first MT session tomorrow to sort out what has happened in our marriage, the affair itself and if we want to reconcile or not (at this point we both want to).

I have never had to deal with such pain in my life as I am now. The betrayal, the deviousness, the devastation, the insecurities, the lack of peace of mind, body and spirit, the anguish, the mental images of them together, the lack of joy and energy for daily activities, the self-doubt, the daily triggers, the deceit, depression, anxiety, fear, the fog I'm in, feeling miserable, hopeless and helpless and the loss of trust are some of the major pains I find myself overcome with throughout the day.

I don't want to emotionally flood my brain (or get carried away when we do discuss things), but it's very difficult.

My question is this: are there any certain practices/methods you've used to help ease the pain yet bring it to the forefront so it can be addressed? Yoga, excercising, helpfull workbooks, journaling, punching bag or other technique to help the pain?

I look forward to visiting this site daily for helpful hints, shared experiences or other theraputic advice to help me on this most painful journey.

Thank you!

30 comments posted: Thursday, January 25th, 2024