Need advice

I really really need some advice on this situation. I’ve been sick for days. So, Me and my boyfriend have been dating for three years now, we’re very serious and have recently started talking about marriage.

So shortly after we graduated law school, he moves to Texas for a job, which was a whole plane ride away from me so we did an entire year long distance. I moved to Texas to be with him in August of this year.

A few weeks ago there was this big parade festival here where we live in Texas and it can get kind of wild. So while we were there we saw this girl and she starts waving my boyfriend down she’s like "omg hey!" and he introduced her to me but he just said my name , he didn’t say this is my girlfriend.

She proceeds to say "we were at his house last year for the festival," (which is when we were doing long distance so I wasn’t around) and I was like you were? Which was weird to me bc he continually told me last year he was coming to this festival with "the guys". This girl was like yeah well do you know Kenzie? and I said no and she said "oh well that’s why we were at his house because him and Kenzie are friends."

Like we’ve been dating for three years I’ve known him for longer than that and I’ve never heard of a Kenzie before. So, I did something crazy. I went through his phone and I searched the name Kenzie and I did not like what I found.

They have been snap chatting as recently as two weeks ago, and then I got to the text messages…. she apparently lives in a different city in Texas, which is about three hours from here. She was telling him that she was going to come in town for this parade and she wanted to see him and he was like yeah I’m having a bunch of people at my house after you all should come by. So fast forward to the day of the parade and he is blowing her phone up. "Please come over please come over you all have to come over. " He’s sharing his location with her at one point he called her honey, she said "sorry it’s been a long day" and he said "well I have a sweatshirt here you can wear" I mean he was blowing her up, the last text messages that I read was her saying I’m here and he said I’m coming down. And the next morning he said thanks for coming I had so much fun. That was the only text messages that they had.

So I told one of my friend this story and she said "I don’t think he would ever cheat on you, but he’s just a flirty guy." And proceeded to tell me that during our long distance year that he was "just a big flirt."

Things have been great since I moved down and I’ve never suspected cheating until this. But now I feel like he just crossed all kinds of lines that year that we were long distance. What do I do? Am I over reacting? Do I tell him about the texts I read on his phone? I’m second guessing our relationship. Help!!

19 comments posted: Friday, February 23rd, 2024