Totally Blown Away

Hello everyone. So my wife and I just celebrated our 20 year anniversary. I found out that she had a 3 month long affair on the night of our anniversary.
I went through her phone and found all the evidence I needed. She broke it off with the guy right before Thanksgiving so its been over for a couple months from what I can see.
The thing I dont understand is that we were getting along great during the time of her affair. We had sex a couple times a week and I love you texts everyday. We have 2 kids and were having a great time as a family going to the kids sporting events ect. She even texted me "I love you babe" when she was going to meet him for sex and would come home and act like nothing happened.
The details of the affair were shocking. They would meet up in our local Target parking lot and do nasty things in his car. He used a giant sex toy on her I even noticed that her vagina was stretched out and she would come home with a strong smell of rubber. She said I was crazy and paranoid and needed help but I was 100% right the entire time.
My wife is 40 years old and gorgeous. This guy was 60 years old bald,ugly and creepy looking.Im 45 and very attractive. I just dont get it.
I packed my stuff and have been living in a hotel. She is begging me back saying she is sorry and doesnt know why she did it. She says she wants to fight for our family. My kids are begging me to come home. I have been looking at apartments but I am torn on what to do.
I asked her why she would do this and the only answer I get is "I dont know" give me time to figure it out. Shes going to counseling I guess. I would consider reconciling if I could get her to tell me why she would do such disgusting things. Please help!!
Thank you

123 comments posted: Friday, March 15th, 2024