Heart Broken/ Confused Caught her possibly setting up a meeting with another man online.

Catfishing affair

Hello everyone.

I recently discovered my spouse was catfished into an online affair. After going through all the emails between her and whoever it is on the other end, I came to the conclusion that the catfish affair thing is in its own league of cheating,

My spouse was sending money overseas hand over fist over a 3 year span. This is what I am aware of.

I feel betrayed, backstabbed, emotionally, and financially.

She was using her money, not ours. Either way this is a stressful situation to be caught up in.

She insists, there was never going to be a PA. She was scammed and trying recover her money. After reading the mails, her story checks out some, but not enough.

Anybody else here fall victim of their spouse in a catfish affair? Please weigh in.

Thanks in advance folks.

31 comments posted: Tuesday, March 12th, 2024

Caught my spouse of 27 years possibly setting up a meeting/romance with another man online. Help!

I am a 53 year old man that has been with my partner for 27 years.

Because of sleep issues, we sleep in separate rooms. This arrangement has been like such for roughly 1.5 years.

The other morning my significant other stepped outside with her coffee, and she left her phone on the table. I glanced over at it only to see she was reading an email from another man. The man was telling her how he can hardly wait to meet her so he could kiss her.

So I forwarded the whole email exchange between the two, to myself for further analysis.

It turns out, he reached out to her a little after midnight telling he when he got home he was going to kiss her.

She responded around 2am telling him she hoped he was home now, and how she can`t wait to hear about his flight home.

At 9am She tells him she is going to work at 1pm.

At 930am he responds with let me know when you are here.

then at 935am He says the plane needed repairs so he was going to text her from a cafe, and he could hardly wait to meet her.

On a side note: His grammar was very poor as if he was a foreigner of some sort.

That was the final message. Then I set my phone one the table and confronted her calmly.
She started a quick cry (seemed fake) then started telling me it was just an internet thing and she regrets it, the guy was on the other side of the world. I asked how she met him, and for how long was this going on. She said facebook, and for around a month.

The thing that really bother me, is that one of the part time jobs she has that she just got, requires her to stay 2 nights in a row, because she works at a private elder living facility.

She is there now, I pick her up in the morning.

I can`t type anymore at the moment. Too heart broken.
I`ll come back.

Thank you in advance for any advice folks

46 comments posted: Sunday, March 10th, 2024

Embarrassed to tell my family

My woman of 27 years cheated. She had an EA with another man. They were getting ready to hook up before I found out.

The question is, with what form of infidelity are you willing to come forward with family? I confided with me best buddy/brother.

But I am too ashamed to tell me family.

Your take?

Thanks

17 comments posted: Friday, March 8th, 2024