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Finally told a friend

So I finally told one friend that I can trust my whole sorted story. She knows me well enough that she suspected something major was going on. Especially with this huge dramatic weight loss. I think this was good for me. I think. Was anyone sorry they confided to a friend?

8 comments posted: Thursday, June 20th, 2024

Someone please explain

I still don’t get it. He keeps telling me that he never stopped loving me and that he never wanted to leave me. Was he loving me when he was in a hotel room with her, was he loving me when he was plotting how to take her on a little vacation, was he loving me when he was buying her jewelry on our sons birthday??? I get that he was a cake eater of course he never wanted to leave me. I was busy working to help fund this double life.
I get that he had poor self esteem and this was ego driven. But the resentment is so strong in me.
He has been doing everything right since the full truth was given to me 6 months ago. Totally transparent, no contact, lets me track everything. IC and MC but I still feel sick to my stomach everyday.
I think what i need to know is what does he really think love is???? Maybe I am not sure anymore.

17 comments posted: Monday, June 10th, 2024

This shocked me. Looking for opinions

Last night in MC my WH said that most men don’t consider taking other women out on a date cheating. He said now he knows that this is not true at all but at the time he didn’t think he was cheating until he actually had sex with someone else. I can’t believe a large number of men think this. Any opinions? He told me that is how a lot of men think. Really????

21 comments posted: Friday, April 26th, 2024

Needing positive long term stories

I am new to all of this with my DDay only coming up on 5 months and TT day only 4 months. At least i think the total truth. My husband has been cheating on me for over 10 years in one form or another. Dating sites, one short affair, one long term affair with a girl our seconds daughters age. I was totally blindsided by this. I never thought that this could happen to me. Since DDay he has cut off all contact, got rid of his other phone that he has had for years, gave me access to all accounts, lets me track where he is, answers my calls or texts right away. We are in MC and IC. I am still dealing with the trauma of all of this. He says he never stopped loving me. He is doing all the right things, showing true remorse. Some days are just so hard to cope. But I still love him. I can’t imagine life without him, or at least the person I met when I was 22 years old. My wanting to stay and have a new good marriage has nothing to do with me being independent. I have a good career and make good money.
I want a good life. He says that he feels a cancer has been cut out of him. He is willing to do the work, do anything to R.
I need some good stories of couples that worked long term.

7 comments posted: Friday, April 12th, 2024