6 years on, what to do

Hi everyone, I so wish I had found you all 6 years ago. Some background is probably best.
Dday was February 2018, at lunch while setting up a new phone for my wife I got "live" messages between her and her lover. To say I was broken is an understatement.
These messages contained each of them telling how much they loved each other and how rhey wanted to touch and more amd be together forever.
Now here's the kicker, it was a female COW rhat my wife was having this affair with.
I confronted her that evening and the blood drained from her face. I left for a few days and what followed was a hounding of me by phone calls and messages to come home.
Our daughters were aged 11 and 9 at the time so very young.
I came back and the sorry and apologies began.
She said that she could not leave her job but that she would cut contact woth the person.
This did not happ3n straight away and I caught her in a car talking to this woman a few times.
Eventually she left the job and began work elsewhere.
6 years on I am still struggling to get iver this and now realise that I don't think I want to stay.
My wife has a significant birthday this year and we are "celebrating" 25 years married so timing is, as usual great.
I don't know what to do but I think I am at the end of the road. I feel like I am constantly thinking when we have an argument that what right has she to argue with me.
I, by no means are perfect and nor do I think that.
I get on famously with her family and they are brilliant people but I'm not married to them.
I just don't know what to do.
Anyway, that's the jist of it, feel free to express your pearls of wisdom.

64 comments posted: Friday, April 19th, 2024