Wifes online affair

Hi folks

Please bear with me on this
About a year ago I discovered my wife had been messaging another man
I had my suspicions as we were hardly speaking to one another
Anyway my suspicions were confirmed by looking at one of her two phones and her iPad
Although the messages were quite tame , she had sent him images of a sexual nature buy the images were of someone else
She had used a fake profile picture but used her real name
They had met through an online pool game
She had ended the messages with love ya
I confronted her and she said she didn't know why she has done it but said it was exciting
She said she had no intention of meeting this chap. Who incidentally is married too
We had a heart to heart and I left it at that
I still had one of her phones which she no.longer used
I did more digging and found out that she had been phoning this mam
Some of the phone calls were over 30 mins in length and it seemed my wife was phoning him
I once again confronted her and she said she didn't know why she had phoned him, it was stupid
I was still getting my head around this and came to the conclusion that as long as they weren't meeting up I could deal with it
Anyway time went on and more and more unanswered questions arose
I managed to get more details about what went on
This is were things got heated up between them
Apparently they started sending filthy messages to one another and she had orgasmed 5 times through this but later found out that she was getting herself off for this to happen over this other man
He had sent her a photo of his penis but she swore she didn't send anything of herself, everything was of other womans private parts
I was gobsmacked as all this was out of character
Anyway I gave her an ultimatum and told her to end whatever it was , she messaged him and admitted she was married, he hadn't a clue. He said I m off and left the pool game group
We became close after that but I still had a gut feeling something was off
Over the next week my wife would go to the toilet after tea more often, she left her handbag on the bathroom floor
The next Saturday I wax using the bathroom and something told me to.look in her bag, I looked and was shocked to find a brand new Samsung phone hidden I'm there
My doubts has been confirmed and I didn't have to be a rocket scientist to realise why she had got this other phone
I was ready to clear off for good and she begged me not to go and she would explain, we went out in the car and sat and talked for hours
I think I had come to the conclusion that this bloke meant more to her than she had let on
She swore that she only loved me and this was just an escape from reality, they hadn't met in real.life and she had no intention of doing so, part of me thought that was because I had put a spanner in the works and spoiled the fun
Anyway she said that she just liked talking to him mostly about pool and football, general stuff
She admitted she wanted him but only in this fantasy persona she had created
In my mind I had two choices leave or let her carry on with this weird online relationship
I have two kids and a mortgage so the latter wasn't an option, I agreed that she could still speak to this bloke but no.more secrets
She agreed
Fast forward to today and she said that there's no lovey dovey stuff going on but he had asked to see photos, she had downloaded photos so she sent him these images
What was strange was that she wouldn't let me see this phone, she even changed her passcode. She said it was because she was sending these photos, although I kind of believed her , the old doubt arises in my mind as I knew about the previous explicit messages so nothing would shock me
Wwe are definitely physically and mentally closer. We talk more now but I still feel she's not being completely honest
Although I no longer ask what they are messaging each other about my conclusion is that she has some kind of love for this man, she swears she doesn't love this man but maybe she trying to convince herself too much
It's been a roller coaster of emotions
What's peoples thoughts on this
Sorry that I was being explicit in parts

19 comments posted: Friday, November 15th, 2024