Devastated

My wife of 6 years (together for 15) asked me for a divorce two weeks ago, out of the blue a true gut shot.
I was beside myself for the following days trying to get her to reason with me and work it out.

I had that feeling in my stomach that something was going on and she denied it for a week before I could finally draw the answer out of her, a colleague at work she confessed to having a crush on after telling me not to worry about him, well the day after she asked for a divorce she met up with him and ‘kissed him’ she has turned our lives upside down, she said that she’s fancied him for the last 4 months while being out of love with me for the last 6. She didn’t once sit me down and explain her feelings while I poured my heart and soul into her to fix our relationship. It hasn’t been easy at all with the pressures of daily life getting us both down but she physically and emotionally turned cold, I missed all the signs of how she was feeling and let another man pick her up when she was feeling down.

I can completely see why she wants a divorce and now that I see how she feels i would have been fully committed to working on myself in the marriage, but the way she has acted over the last couple of weeks is horrendous, I feel like 1% of my former self and now have to look forward to navigating life on my own instead of the woman I adore.

I suppose I just wanted to get that off of my chest.

40 comments posted: Sunday, October 27th, 2024