Married -2022
D-Day-PA/EA- WW 06/2024Reconciling for 15 months so far.
How Did You Feel Throughout Reconciliation
After reading more recent posts and even dealing with my own individual process of reconciliation. I noticed a lot of us touch this specific topic in response to another question, but we never really do a deep dive.
If it's a repeated post, feel free to delete or disregard it.
I'm 16 Months in reconciliation. I'm finally no longer feel anger towards WW or the situation. Nor do I feel like it has a huge control over who am as a person in some ways as I did early on. I do believe I have come to accept the affair has happened and that there's nothing I or anyone can do to undo it. Not only that, but I no longer wonder what I could have done to stop it. However, I do feel like I've started entering into a phase of putting up walls, whether it be emotional or other to protect myself from being disappointed. I know at some point I have to address that. I know someone posted something similar in another post, which led me to this post.
It seems like some more than others have had similar experiences and feelings in reconciliation. It seems like while the obvious is why we all are here and that is a core similarity. However, how we feel during the months during reconciliation varies and we all at some point feel alone and lost.
So, I was curious how did you feel and what did you go through with your spouse during the first 12 Months, 24 Months, 36 Months...etc.
0 comment posted: Saturday, November 1st, 2025
Advice on Expressing Flasbacks of DDay to Spouse
I know a lot of people have posted about having moments where they see something that triggers them and brings their thoughts to DDay or just those thoughts just appear out of nowhere.
How do you all address them with your spouse.
I ask, because I’ve noticed I will become extremely withdrawn when those thoughts appear. And I understand my wife is feeling guilt, shame and embarrassment from DDay. However, she can tell when I get withdrawn and start to shutdown. Obviously, she feels as if she had done something wrong at that specific moment. However, it has nothing to do with that moment, but moments that occurred months ago. The last thing I want to do is add to those feelings of guilt and shame.
Is it better to express to her that I randomly have started to think about DDay. It’s easier if there is a trigger, but random pop up thoughts? It makes it seems like that’s all I think about then. Or maybe I’m overthinking this?
11 comments posted: Thursday, October 16th, 2025
Being Bombarded with Infidelity Posts on Social Media
I haven’t posted on here at all, but I have read as many posts as I could to help me through this situation.
My DDay was last year in June. So it hasn’t been too long in the reconciliation process and even during that short time there were setbacks. Which we did overcome and I’m assuming there might be more on both our ends.
Anyway, I’ve come to find out just like movies and tv shows, cheating is a major topic that keeps showing up on social media. For weeks on end it disappears but then it remerges. Even if I press "uninterested".
Sometimes it makes me second guess why I’m even trying to fix us. Basically, at times it reminds me of the pain that was inflicted by someone that’s not supposed to do that to you.
For the ones who are still in reconciliation or even the ones who’s not, how do you deal with it.
10 comments posted: Saturday, September 27th, 2025
