stilllovemywife ( member #32910) posted at 6:52 PM on Friday, July 29th, 2011
What an amazing post. Spot on. I don't think I could express how I feel any better than what you have here. These are exactly the things I need. I am printing this to give to WW. I hope she reads it, gets it, and uses it.
Truly amazing. Thank you.
stilllovinghim ( member #29971) posted at 2:15 AM on Tuesday, August 2nd, 2011
BUMP!!! 
“You have a choice. Live or die.Every breath is a choice. Every minute is a choice. Every time you don't throw yourself down the stairs, that's a choice. Every time you don't crash your car, you re-enlist.”
― Chuck Palahniuk, Survivor
andywalks ( new member #32897) posted at 3:54 AM on Tuesday, August 2nd, 2011
Oh do I need to reread this and be reminded. Thanks. Its so hard to listen! I'm so drained.
Me WS 45
Him BS 45
Married 24 years
D-Day 21 May 2011
3 sons 11, 17, 18
Offhispedestal ( member #32528) posted at 1:58 PM on Wednesday, August 3rd, 2011
This is EXACTLY how I feel. I wish I could get by H to read this.We are in R but there is more than 1 DD. So the NC has been NC as far as I know. I think it may take me longer to heal because there are still things that I know that he has not brought up on his own. Me bringing it up will only cause an argument and Im tired of arguing. Its only been 1 month since NC(emails,text) its been longer NC ,H has not been with her physically in months. Maybe one day he will read this. HE HATES TO READ.
ME-48
WH-49
Married 27
2Beautiful daughters
DD 6/26/10 (he broke down & confessed)
DD#2 3/14/11 H in OW's car
TT 7/1/11 (NC broken, through emails)
In R
MrsSprky99 ( member #32895) posted at 3:34 PM on Wednesday, August 3rd, 2011
Absolutely amazing post...and a must see for any WS. Speaks volumes when sometimes us BS can't! THANK YOU!!!!
BW (me) - 47
WH (him) - 53
Married - 14 years
3 Children - 25, 24 from first relationship & 10 y/o with WH
D-Day: June 11, 2011
Mommy23 ( new member #32646) posted at 6:03 AM on Wednesday, August 10th, 2011
This is the best and most accurate description of exactly what I, BS, have been feeling!! I emailed it to my WS and he is reading it as I sit here. It is PERFECT and I think many would agree.
Once a WS reads this, they cannot claim they do not know what to do to help heal the pain they have created.
Textbook Case ( member #24977) posted at 11:03 PM on Monday, August 22nd, 2011
bump
BW- me
FWH- 5-year EA/PA plus really poor boundaries with coworkers
Married 30 years (college sweethearts)
Reconciling...
bestbecameworst ( member #31507) posted at 11:49 PM on Tuesday, August 23rd, 2011
What do you do when you give this link to your WS and they don't read it, it's too long, then you never hear back...
[This message edited by bestbecameworst at 5:49 PM, August 23rd (Tuesday)]
Me: BS
Together since 1997, married Jan 2010, EA started Feb 2010, PA June 2010
D-day1 Oct 20 2010 / D-day2 Oct 21 2010 and following week / found this site Mar 2011
He didn't do work to reconcile.
DIVORCED in 2014 and HAPPY!
RKT429SS ( member #28883) posted at 5:14 PM on Wednesday, August 24th, 2011
What do you do when you give this link to your WS and they don't read it, it's too long, then you never hear back...
You 180. Big time!
Me - BS 38
Her - WS 37
MOM - coworker,with 2 kids, EA&PA approx. 6 mo
Us Married 10 yrs (together 15 yrs)
1 girl, 1 boy
DDay 3.15.2010
Working on R
Dallas2 ( member #28362) posted at 1:57 PM on Thursday, August 25th, 2011
HUFI-PUFI:
Thank you for you post. It has helped my FWS understand where I was at and believe me without this we would not have celebrated our 20th Anniversary or be looking forward to a future together.
Thank you again 
betrayer47 ( member #28957) posted at 12:59 AM on Saturday, August 27th, 2011
Bump for HUFI
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 1:23 PM on Tuesday, September 13th, 2011
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
starstruck ( member #29547) posted at 11:13 AM on Friday, September 16th, 2011
DDay 7/29/2010
Am hoping to reconcile!! Am I crazy or what?
If we all did the things we are capable of doing we would literally astound ourselves-Thomas Edison
hathnofury ( member #32550) posted at 7:51 PM on Monday, September 26th, 2011
BS 43, SAWH 38. M 15years, together 17. Body count in the triple digits. Both in recovery, trying to R.
Three kids under age 11.
fromthisdayfwd ( member #30634) posted at 1:46 AM on Monday, October 3rd, 2011
Bump
Married 8/20/1994
Betrayed
DDay 6/23/2010
A gift is not given if it has been demanded.
Failure to attempt is failure.
lostandloster ( new member #33498) posted at 12:59 AM on Tuesday, October 4th, 2011
I am a new BS who just had his own DD about a week ago.
I want you to know that that post is the most beautiful thing that I've read and I so wish my WW would do these things.
I hurt so bad, that post made me cry terribly.
I pray that many WS read this, learn and understand.
Birima ( member #33519) posted at 10:15 AM on Tuesday, October 4th, 2011
Dear all,
Thank you for posting this important first aid kid that should be of use the rest of our live.
Me WH
She BW
Married for 7 YRS
D-Day 09/16/11
OC born December 4th 2011
No R yet
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 10:33 PM on Tuesday, October 11th, 2011
bump
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
CF1111 ( member #33577) posted at 3:08 AM on Friday, October 14th, 2011
Read this today and think it's awesome. Hit the nail on the head with everything I'm going through. Emailed it to my WW, but she's too tired to read it tonight she says. Ugh! Hoping for a 180 tomorrow when she reads it. Thanks for posting.
Me BS
Her WW
OM neighbor
Married 8 yrs
Kids (2)
D-Day 01/2011
Trying to R, failing lately
Sandcrab ( member #10067) posted at 4:43 PM on Tuesday, October 18th, 2011
I ♥ LostJim
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